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A Guide to Using Sex Toys in the Bedroom
Sex toys are more popular than ever before. The sex toy industry is booming, with 60 million toys sold every year. In recent years, the variety and innovation in the sex toy industry have significantly increased.
Our Sex Lives According to Trojan
What is it about the southern half of the United States that makes their citizens more sexually satisfied than anywhere else in the country? According to Trojan’s 2009 Pleasure Survey, Houston, Atlanta and Washington D.C. are having the most sex, while cities up north like Chicago and San Francisco are having the least amount of sex. Could it be people feel sexier in warmer weather? What’s even...
6 Tricks To Slow Down Sex
According to recent research American heterosexual sex lasts only 7.3 minutes on average. What is the rush, people? If we compare sex to dining, Americans are the sexual equivalent of a fast food joint- an In-N-Out, if you will. Sex, like food, is supposed to be savored. It should be a four course meal.
The Courage to Communicate About Sex & Pleasure
When our friends at Dame recently appeared on “Megyn Kelly TODAY” to talk about the pleasure gap, we knew the term had officially gone mainstream. And for good reason. The statistics on how often women reach orgasm compared to men are striking, especially in heterosexual relationships. And yet, to many women this news isn't all that surprising. Why is that? And what can we do to elevate and validate women's pleasure?
Why You Should Join the Slow Sex Movement
According to recent research American heterosexual sex lasts only 7.3 minutes on average. What is the rush, people? If we compare sex to dining, Americans are the sexual equivalent of a fast food joint- an ‘In-N-Out’, if you will.
Sex, like food, is supposed to be savored. It should be a four course meal. You don’t just walk into a fancy restaurant and demand your main course. You take your time....
Three Easy Ways to Step up Your Sex Life
“Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. ‘Yes’ is the answer.” -Swami X
Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the top reasons cited when we leave our relationships. It is also one of this life’s most worthy challenges to take on; not only for the meaning and pleasure it can bring to our relationships, but also for the very real health benefits that a satisfying sex life bestows on our well being. I...
Sex Your Way: Three Steps to Setting Personal Boundaries in the Bedroom
If someone close to you asked you to describe your ideal sexual experience, what kind of encounter would you describe? How would it begin? Who (and what) would be involved? Where would it take place? Most importantly, how would it feel?
For some, the answers to these questions may be easy to articulate. For others, not so much. Being able to voice our deepest personal needs and desires is not...
The Buzz on Toy Safety
Adult novelties are products that everyone wants, but no one is really willing to talk about. A report in 2001 by CBC suggested that the market for vibrating toys in North America alone is worth $400 to $500 million. These estimates are probably conservative in an industry that is hardly tracked because all the companies are privately held and even pornography revenue is generally significantly...
Q&A with Dame Products: Closing the Pleasure Gap with Innovation
Just two years ago, Dame Products launched Eva, the first “truly wearable” couples’ vibrator. Featuring two flexible wings, the curious looking little vibe was designed to tuck under the labia. No hands, no hassle, just clitoral stimulation. Eight hundred thousand dollars later, Eva was the number one crowdfunded sex toy of all time. Surprised?
Choosing the Best Personal Lubricant for Menopause
If you’ve just recently entered menopause, you might be noticing some of the changes that accompany this major shift. There are the emotional changes, the mood swings, hot flashes, disrupted sleep, and of course, the vaginal pain and dryness, which can make sex suddenly uncomfortable.
When to Use a Hybrid Silicone-Based Lubricant
There are multiple benefits to a hybrid silicone-based formula, like Hybrid Silicone & Water Based Personal Lubricant. Silicone-based hybrid lubes are known for their slippery and smooth texture, and their ability to provide long-lasting moisture.
Tired of Initiating Intimacy?
One of the most common problems that bring long-term couples into therapy is that of initiating intimacy. According to Rachel Sussman, a marriage counselor in New York City, one of the most common reasons that couples come to couples therapy is differing sex drives and opinions on how to initiate sex.
Let's Talk About... Awkward Intimate Moments
Sex can be a lot of things. It can be fun, exciting, and intimate at its best. But just like any other good thing, there can be some hiccups along the way. Whether it is your first, third, or 100th time having sex, awkward moments are pretty inevitable, and it’s about time we start normalizing them.
Lube 101: How, When and Where to Use a Personal Lubricant
Personal lubricant has a bit of a reputation for being a niche product. It’s something that we’re often told is for a post-menopausal population, masturbation or anal play. In reality, however, lube is made to enhance pleasure, not just for specific people or play.
Lube can benefit anyone with an active partnered or solo sex life. Anyone who’s used a lubricated condom has already benefited from just how great lube is (as you likely know, the lube that comes in the condom wrapper is what he...
What Is a Sexual Awakening and How Do You Know When It's Happened?
Discovering your sexual self is a normal and exciting experience that can occur at any time and at any age.
Should I Use Olive Oil As a Lubricant?
The benefits of using a personal lubricant for sex are numerous. Lubricants can deepen your pleasure, since they increase the natural slip and slide that go with the best sex, and they can also be helpful in combating conditions like vaginal dryness or pain with sex that often accompany normal hormonal shifts, medical conditions, and age-related changes.
Own Your Orgasm: Gender, Pleasure, and Closing The Gap
When it comes to sex, our society has two narratives for young women. It begins with the basics: contraceptives and consent. This is the core of sexual education in our country and often where the conversation stops, leaving a lot unsaid. What fills this gap? The second narrative on sexuality is a cultural dialogue...
Let the Real Games Begin
If you were one of the millions waiting for the last minutes of yesterday’s Superbowl, then you saw the million dollar invitation by Victoria’s Secret. A bigger-than-life beautiful girl, dropping the ball and mouthing the words that millions of guys dream of hearing. I have to admit it was tasteful and said what we all know, that after the sports events are over- the real game is in our own...
How Breast Cancer Treatment Affects Intimacy – And What You Can Do About It
An estimated 280,000 women will be diagnosed with new cases of invasive breast cancer this year, while there will be about 50,000 diagnoses of non-invasive breast cancer. The majority of these women will undergo some form of treatment to combat the disease.
Feminine Hygiene Tips for Women of All Ages
The earlier you start practicing strong feminine hygiene, the better equipped you will be to manage changes to your body and feminine wellness later in life. Read on to discover vaginal care and hygiene tips for women of all ages.
Ask Him Anything: Should I be worried about him watching porn while he masturbates?
I get that it’s normal for guys to masturbate, but is it normal for him to be watching porn while he does it? Should I be worried? -Worried Wife
Dear Worried Wife,
I’m glad you realize that it’s normal for guys to masturbate, because it is. In fact, as a guy, I’d say that the one thing that unites us is the fact that we pretty much all masturbate. While the number of timesduring a day may differ...
Rethinking Erotophobia
The conference for the Society of Sexual Scientists was fascinating. The people who research, teach and counsel around sexuality are as diverse as the topic itself. It taught me all over again that the human experience of sexuality is far broader, wider, wilder than most of us let ourselves imagine. The fact that this is true and not just true about other people is the source of our own private...
The 4 Best Benefits of Masturbation
“Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it’s a cure.” — Thomas Szasz
Of all the sexual acts on the planet, masturbation leads the way as not only the most commonly practiced and safest ways to have sex, but also as the one that most frequently and reliably ends in orgasm. Not terribly surprising when you consider who...
10 Things Married Women Want
By Tina Tessina
Women value intimacy, safety for themselves and their children, and emotional connection. Therefore, they long for the following qualities in a man:
1. Good Judgment
Good judgment is important because it means you can count on this man to help you make good decisions. He will be balanced and think clearly about whatever needs to be done. When you know your partner has good...
This Week’s Recommended Reads, Vol. 2
We get it. The work week is a busy time, full of meetings, reports to write, kids to pick up and dinners to make. Sometimes casual reading doesn’t exactly make it to the to-do list. So, in case you missed what’s going on around the world (online that is) check out our newest feature, Weekly Recommended Reads. Featuring the finest articles on love, sex, relationships and related topics, as well as...
The Female Ejaculation
Question: I have a new partner who seems to pee when she is about to orgasm. She is really embarrassed about this, and I’m not sure what to do either. We’re really into each other and I don’t want this to hold us back from being sexual together! Any advice? – Linda, 25, AR
Answer: This is great news!
It is time to celebrate, not worry. Most likely what your partner is experiencing a release of...
Going Green for Valentine’s Day
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by Tinamarie Bernard
Get your green vibe on with adult toys that are safe, pleasurable and eco-aware.
With Valentine’s Day around the corner, now is the time to educate yourself about what makes a pleasure aid green before you surprise your beloved with that extra-special something. From the ins and outs of vaginal lubrication to designing a vibrator of Amazonian proportions, many...
A Lack of Lubrication
Question:
For the past month or so every time my husband and I have sex I can’t cum. What is wrong with me? There’s always a lack of natural lubrication. We also have a 3-month-old baby. Thanks.
–Melissa, 31, NM
Answer:
As a sexuality educator for Good Clean Love I get lots of questions about vaginal lubrication. Lots of women and their partners find vaginal lubrication rather enigmatic — and...
3 Ways Masturbation Can Improve Your Intimate Life
“Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it’s a cure.” — Thomas Szasz
Although there is no chapter dedicated specifically to effects of masturbation on health in my new book Sex that Works, I refer often to why self-pleasure is so essential to moving towards a healthy relationship with pleasure itself. In fact, sex...
We Ask Real Couples: What's It Like to Have a Threesome?
Have you ever thought about having a threesome? If so, you certainly aren’t alone. In fact, having a threesome is the #1 sexual fantasy for Americans. According to a study on American adults, 95% of men and 87% of women said they've fantasized about sex with multiple partners.
Gifts That Keep Giving
“To fall in love is easy, even to remain in it is not difficult; our human loneliness is cause enough.But it is a hard quest worth making to find a comrade through whose steady presence one becomes steadily the person one desires to be.” -Anna Louise Strong
It is that time of year again when we are all faced with finding the perfect gift for someone we love. With the economic turmoil and its...
Can I Use Coconut Oil As a Lubricant?
It seems like everyone is using coconut oil these days, and not just for sauteing veggies. With seemingly limitless uses for health and beauty, what was once a humble pantry staple has become the latest all-purpose health food of the moment. But as with any explosive health and beauty trend, there comes a point when things can get taken a little too far.
How to Choose the Best Water-Based Lubricant
Nearly half (44%) of people with vulvas have experienced vaginal dryness, leading to painful or uncomfortable sex. When dryness is an issue, a quality lubricant can be a lifesaver. Lubricants are a great way to increase pleasure and comfort during intimacy. But all lubricants are not alike.
Antihistamines & Vaginal Dryness: Is Your Allergy Medicine Making You Dry?
Allergies are one of the most common chronic illnesses in the U.S. – more than 50 million Americans experience various types of allergies each year. But did you know that antihistamines, one of the most popular class of drugs used to treat allergies, can cause vaginal dryness?
Seeking Orgasmic Pleasure
“The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.”
- Wilhelm Reich
Some of my most vivid memories of my early sex life are not of the satisfying post coitus elated release, but of their opposite. It is hard to forget the many times when sex was more a path of frustration than pleasure; when I was still figuring...
Summer Vaginal Health: 5 Tips for Avoiding Common Infections
Summer is here, and with it comes warm weather, beach vacations, sand, sun, saltwater, and …vaginal infections?! Nothing puts a damper on the fun like an infection. But why do doctors and other sexual health experts see such a spike in these infections during the warm summer months?
Lighting the Path to Orgasm
Some of my most vivid memories of my early sex life are not of the satisfying post coitus elated release, but the opposite. It is hard to forget the many years when sex was more a path of frustration than pleasure; when I was still figuring out how my body responded and why it often didn’t.
4 Ways to Breathe New Life Into Your Relationship This Spring
Spring is the time of year when we focus our efforts on cleaning out the clutter and giving everything a fresh new look. It’s also when we sow the seeds for a fruitful year of growth. Why not extend that momentum and efforts to your relationship as well?