by Kaylee Dye November 08, 2018
Falling in love is easy… Staying in love takes work, compassion and forgiveness.
In the beginning of most relationships there’s this honeymoon phase if you will. Where you’re learning about each other, asking lots of questions, everything is new and exciting and the butterflies are flying…. This is what researchers would call the dopamine phase. But as time goes on, we enter into the gentler more nurturing stage of oxytocin or partner bonding.
Now I can only speak from my personal experience and what research says. But for me, even though I love love my man and he’s my favorite person to be around, after years of being together I find myself not always having something to say on our dates. Maybe you’re in a similar predicament with your significant other.
Here are five ways to get the conversation going and deepen your relationship this fall!
Asking questions is always a good idea! Try ones that you may not have asked during the “getting to know you stage” but would be fun to know or could deepen your emotional connection with your partner.
Some of our favorites are:
Another fun option is to look up a list of questions and save them on your phone to ask on your date or dinner in! Here’s an awesome list of 36 questions from The New York Times.
Research is showing that grateful couples are more satisfied in their relationships and feel closer to each other. Moments of gratitude help people recognize the value in their partners—and a valuable partner is worth holding onto, of course. Gratitude has also been known to create a “healthy cycle”. Grateful partners tend to practice more caring and attentive behavior, thus their partners tend to feel more appreciated and grateful for them. Then, they in return practice more caring and attentive behaviors as well.
Try sharing one or two things you’re grateful your partner does for you and why, and share one thing about who they are as a person you’re grateful for!
Practicing gratitude out loud to your partner may seem uncomfortable at first, but like most things, it gets easier with practice and the benefits in your relationship are so worth it!
Not only will trying a new activity give you something new to talk about, but it also can bring some of that dopamine back into the relationship!
You could go rock climbing, take a fun vacation together, go to a sports game, or play a video game together. It just needs to be something you’d both enjoy!
My partner and I recently started playing pickleball with his parents.
Dreaming together about the future is one of the ways in which you reaffirm your commitment to each other and to your life together.
Making plans and setting goals helps you grow together, not apart, because you are both moving toward the same future. And dreams provide the glue that keeps you working together. They give you a purpose to your everyday activities.
Maybe you already know each other’s “love languages”, or maybe you’ve never heard of this before. Either way, it's fun to take the quiz to find out! And then talk about your results.
Although demanding that your partner love you a certain way is never healthy, it can be a very helpful tool to know how the other person tends to express love and feel loved, bringing you into a deeper connection.
by Good Clean Love Staff May 16, 2019
by Good Clean Love Staff May 03, 2019
May 12–18 marks National Women’s Health Week. The main focus is to raise awareness about manageable steps women can take to improve their overall health. It is important to practice positive health behaviors every day. Although there are many health concerns women should take caution about, today we are going to talk about five of the most common.
by Good Clean Love Staff April 18, 2019
Birth control and lubricant delivered straight to your door? The future really is female! At least, that’s what we’re beginning to think after collaborating with the incredibly innovative staff at The Pill Club.