by Wendy Strgar September 05, 2012
“The antidote to exhaustion isn’t rest. It’s wholeheartedness.” –David Whyte, poet
I haven’t loved a movie as much as I did Hope Springs in quite a while. It was the sometimes painfully realistic portrayal of what happens in a marriage or any relationship when the people involved stop saying the hard things that need to be said. More painful still are the myriad of ways that people stop touching each other, both in the early stages of discomfort with their own sexuality and in the latter stages of anger and resentment for not being wanted sexually. Meryl Streep plays the beautiful, wounded wife to the angry and unreachable Tommy Lee Jones.
Good Clean Love was requested to provide samples for the opening night of this film and I am grateful that our message was shared for this story of tapping into the healing power of intimacy. Unlike many Hollywood versions that reduce sex to the lowest common denominator of passionate animal lust, Hope Springs depicts the painful locks we put on our need to touch and be held: the trembling hand as we move forward, in fear of what our sexual needs and desires say about us.
Like this couple, too many of us give into the exhaustion that this high level work of becoming an adult in your significant intimate relationships demands. We give up on our sexuality or on the sexual potential of our partnership because it takes so much courage and wholeheartedness to claim it. The distancing that comes from holding someone so far from your heart is what evolves into the myriad of resentment connections that take over silently in what was once our most vulnerable heart.
Telling a true story about the sexual life you want starts as we see in Hope Springs with the courage to reveal your sexual self to yourself and to your partner. It demands authentic conversations and a willingness to explore both pleasure and our discomfort with moving towards pleasure. If your sex life needs more juice, start with searching for your own inner juices and then be willing to share them with the person you love.
Having a great sex life that matures and grows in passion is a direct result of building intimacy into all the everyday aspects of life.
by Good Clean Love Staff March 19, 2019
The percentage of people impacted by infidelity is somewhere between 30 and 60% of all married couples, depending on the study cited. More interesting than the differences between men and women are the different patterns of infidelity for each gender. Cheating men are more likely than cheating women to have an affair with someone younger than their spouse. On the other hand, cheating women are more likely than cheating men to have an affair with someone better educated than their current spouse.
by Kaylee Dye February 08, 2019
What is daily care of the vagina? We know how to take daily care of our face – we cleanse it, we balance our pH with toner, we moisturize it. But what’s involved with taking care of our vagina? And why take care of it every day?
Let’s first address why you want to practice daily care of your lady business.
by Meghan Morgavan January 24, 2019
It can be devastating to feel pain when you were expecting to feel pleasure. And yet, if you have ever experienced this, you should know you are not alone. The landmark "Sex in America" survey conducted in 1994 found that 1 in 5 women experience pain during sex, and this likelihood increases to 1 in 3 women when they are post-menopausal.