April 04, 2019
April 26, 2018
Most of us don’t realize how frequently we are checked out of our life. We struggle to stay present in the day-to-day with the never-ending onslaught of digital feeds and new devices that offer superficial connectivity at best, but we lose out on the true contact that feeds our soul and makes us human. More and more scientific research is showing how much we give up when we trade the voyeurism of social media for the real-time relating that makes us feel seen and heard. Even more disturbing is how we are losing the muscle memory to do the messy and gratifying work of truly showing up, risking our heart, and communicating. It is in the trenches of our life, in the mess of people’s feelings spilling over onto us that we are really connected and that we can offer our best self. Start today with one of these tips and see how different life can feel when you fully show up!
April 19, 2018
September 30, 2016
Seems like every time I turn around this week, I have been hearing the word “easy”… from my phone which continues to light up with texts from old friends I haven’t heard from in years, “LOL, saw you on easy…”, to the shipping guy at UPS- who suddenly recognizes our...
February 19, 2016
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” –Steven Covey
Usually, when people leave each other they cite irreconcilable differences. What they don’t realize is that the things that end up feeling so big and unworkable all start out being little things. Annoying habits that don’t change, emotional insecurities that play into blame and shame,...
December 30, 2015
“When one realises one is asleep, at that moment one is already half-awake.” ― P.D. Ouspensky
Forget about the typical New Year’s resolution this year and instead begin by celebrating all that is right with you and your life. This is truly the only emotional space which can generate the motivation to do something differently. We change effortlessly to increase more of something good, whereas...
June 17, 2015
My father has always been a quiet, introspective man. Though he says little, the things he says say a lot. His presence around the words he chooses to speak say even more.
But my father is a lot more than just quiet and introspective. He’s generous. He’s kind. He’s hardworking and he’s curious about the world. Ever a reader, my father, for as long as I can remember, spends his evenings after...
April 13, 2015
“For love is patient….”
I am redesigning my blog again and have opted to let go of the whole Daily concept in favor of my primary voice here at Making Love Sustainable. As my creative director and I have been going back and forth about the look and feel of these words, saying no to curly cursive, no to all caps in varying shades of bold, I found myself explaining how these words “making love...
December 16, 2014
“Sex is full of lies. The body tries to tell the truth. But, it’s usually too battered with rules to be heard, and bound with pretenses so it can hardly move. We cripple ourselves with lies.” -Jim Morrison
I love sex. There is little else in life that eclipses the culmination of release, joy and satisfaction that I experience every time I make love.
There, I said it.
Moreover, I would even...
August 15, 2014
The truth is that we all fall short of our intentions a lot of the time, especially when it comes to our dedication to loving the people around us. We are blessed with these brilliant moments of inspiration that too often don’t come together in reality.
One of the most powerful antidotes to this pattern of unfulfilled love ideas is to share our commitment to become more loving with the people...
April 11, 2014
This Monday is the 30thanniversary of my marriage to the guy I fell for when I was 19 years old. I wept when I came across the first published piece I ever wrote among my father’s photos and memorabilia when I was cleaning out his home after his death. This was a reader’s write column for the sun magazine, for which I won a year’s subscription. It was 1988, the year our first child was born and I...
April 04, 2014
Lately, I am having to do a lot of practice with going through the motions of my Positivity work. Meditation, usually a deep solace, is hard to stay focused. I drift into thoughts and concerns for half my time and then awaken to what I have missed. Likewise, with my exercise routines, my clogged head feels like it is dead weight on a body that is weak. My emotions and thoughts pull me back over...