The ability to orgasm remains one of the most coveted and yet misunderstood human experiences there is, partly because we wrongly believe that it is an experience of the genitals. In fact, our ability to climax reverberates throughout the body and initiates deep in the brain. Below is an easy-to-use guide to the order of operations that, with a unique blend of practicing and letting go, will help move you from arousal to orgasm.
Our sense of smell is ancient and the source of our most powerful emotional memories. It is also the primal sensory pathway to sexual attraction. And yet, we often give little attention to all that our sense of smell can evoke, in part because we have so little vocabulary for scent. Often we're limited to “it smells like…” and delineated only between pleasant and unpleasant.
We believe we are making it better by shielding ourselves from our own pain. This is a fool’s errand, for the pain we refuse to feel and acknowledge doesn’t dissipate from our lacking attention, but rather collects in our heart center with a weightiness that we often cannot name or discern. So fearful are we, of the potential of a broken heart, that we inadvertently refuse to open our hearts at all.
May is “International Masturbation Month,” and here at Good Clean Love, we don’t shy away from talking about masturbation and self-pleasure. We agree with physicians and sex therapists the world over that it is a natural part of a sexually healthy life.
To celebrate, we’re sharing four things you might not know about masturbation and the practice of self-pleasure.
“Kisses are a better fate than wisdom.” E.E. Cummings
Days are becoming balmy, daylight lasting into evening, and the flowering trees are now awash in color. If ever there was a moment that the kiss was invented somehow I am sure it was when the world awoke to springtime. It’s hard to imagine a world in which we didn’t kiss- no wonder that the earliest recorded kisses date back to the very beginning of recorded time. The ancient Indian Vedic scriptures describe lovers “setting mouth to mouth”. Even earlier, historians have understood the kiss as the foundation of our biological drive to reproduce. The earliest recorded kissing began with the practice of brushing noses which allowed potential partners to immediately identify whether the match was compatible.
Almost all of the interviews that I do these days are about consent, or more aptly the lack of it on college campuses. Reporters often begin these interviews believing that this issue is isolated to our youth, that...
Here is the sad truth about the sex lives in many long-term partnerships: often it is either the glue that keeps the relationship strong or the thorn in its side, a source of persistent pain and discord. Endless books and articles substantiate both the frequency and damage of the...
One of the saddest of all statistics on our collective sexual health is about how little time we spend on it, with the average sexual act lasting only 7-12 minutes.
Sexual foreplay is the moments when the arousal mechanism in the limbic brain gets to align with the...
