I remain convinced that at the end of the day, at the end of our lives, the only thing we are going to count is the people we loved and those who loved us back. I have heard that the final moments of consciousness are a rush of memories, images that have been indelibly etched in our hearts where we connected, where we had let go and opened up to love, where we had been received and loved just as we are.

Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the top reasons cited when we leave our relationships. It is also one of life’s most worthy challenges to take on, not only for the meaning and pleasure it can bring to our relationships, but also for the very real health benefits that a satisfying sex life bestows on our well-being.

Necessity was the mother of invention when I began Good Clean Love. I reacted very badly to the petrochemical ingredients that make up the majority of intimacy products and, after nursing through four children, I had vaginal dryness all the time. The products that my doctor recommended only made a bad situation worse.

We believe we are making it better by shielding ourselves from our own pain. This is a fool’s errand, for the pain we refuse to feel and acknowledge doesn’t dissipate from our lacking attention, but rather collects in our heart center with a weightiness that we often cannot name or discern. So fearful are we, of the potential of a broken heart, that we inadvertently refuse to open our hearts at all. 

When our friends at Dame recently appeared on “Megyn Kelly TODAY” to talk about the pleasure gap, we knew the term had officially gone mainstream. And for good reason. The statistics on how often women reach orgasm compared to men are striking, especially in heterosexual relationships. And yet, to many women this news isn't all that surprising. Why is that? And what can we do to elevate and validate women's pleasure?

Did you know that June is LGBTQ Pride Month? Pride is celebrated in June due to the Stonewall Riots that happened in June of 1969 when the police raided the Stonewall Inn—a New York City gay club. This marked history’s first major protest for homosexual equal rights.

There is no better time than Valentine's Day to shine a light on one of the biggest misconceptions ever perpetrated about love: that love is only real when it is returned to us. We so often characterize our capacity for love as a coupled experience, its legitimacy resting in its reciprocity. 

The awakening is real. The time of concealment is over. And it's not just all those pussy hats making the rounds during the 2^nd National Women’s March, or the unprecedented number of women running for office, or the relentless outing of formerly powerful men who used their positions to sexually violate others. The real news is how the conversation is being extended to discuss what has heretofore been off limits...

I believe the most generous thing we can offer anyone is our undivided attention. With the holiday season upon us, it is a great time to reconsider what matters most in our gift-giving rituals. Let's dig into three simple ways to bring your full presence to those you love. 

“Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity.” – Hippocrates

I spent five years writing a book about how to make sex work in your life, but pretty much since its publication, almost all of the conversations I have are about the sex that permeates our lives that doesn’twork. The unfolding revelations about rampant sexual abuses began with the brave and bold and...