Good Clean Reads

Since I began writing a blog on Sustainable Love, I have deliberately kept my writing separate from my company work of producing all natural love products. People often ask me what came first, my loveology writing or my love products- Another chicken and egg story, they both inspired and invented each other. More and more in this small west coast city where I live, my teaching and my products are...

Here is an interesting dilemma on being human. You can see that what you are doing is not working. You might be getting consistent negative results, which is to say you are stressed, overwhelmed and in doubt about your present course and still it is somehow easier to stay the rocky course than face the empty space of not knowing how to do it differently. Here is the thing, you have to stop doing what isn’t working and give yourself the time and space for personal development to figure out how to reinvent the process. It seems like a no-brainer. It should be easy actually.

Just home from the Green Festival in Chicago. A remarkable first time event with an attendance of over 30000 people. I haven’t been back in the Midwest in over 10 years and was happily reminded of the deep civility and down to earth polite manners that dominates the city. Bringing all natural love products and teaching about sustainable love relationships reminded me again of the other part of...

Today the world feels overcome with violence. Mass shootings in a college classroom capture the front page of newspapers all over the country. The questions of how and why and what is to be done weigh heavily. Senseless violence. The report is followed on NPR by a story about Marines who went on a rampage after their buddy was killed by a bomb. They murdered a small village of 24. The killers in...

Life has been smacking me in the face lately- this description borrowed from my fifteen year old son couldn’t be more accurate. The love business has been feeling like slogging through three feet of mud, and most often when asked a question the only response that feels true is “I don’t know.” Sleep is hard to find and harder still to stay in. Hungry for chocolate and peace…. Sometimes the day to...

Researchers around the world are looking for the keys to sexual functioning and some recent studies from the University of Amsterdam are demonstrating that contrary to popular belief, arousal is not a product of desire, but rather a result of it.

Neurobiologists have found that in many areas of life, including sexual response, the brain regions required to perform a specific act are ablaze prior...

Always happy to see signs of reason returning to the headlines of our newspapers- today the LA Times reported five states: Wisconsin, Connecticut, Rhode Island, Montana and New Jersey, which despite the dwindling coffers of public funding have turned down the Just Say No to Sex money being doled out to only teach abstinence. Not only does the money carry the obligation to forgo any real education...

They feel different, sex and love…but together they are the best. You know it when it is love, the act penetrates deeply to center, something uncovered, released and energy connecting. It transforms energy through flesh, or maybe flesh to energy. Hard to say at that moment.

By itself, sexual acts take us far out of our ordinary mind. They are a departure from the daily in the most visceral of...

There are days I long to look up and see an opening in the sky that would remind me of the truth about life. I work to see and to believe that life is good and our inclination to love is always one to be trusted. However, sometimes love and trust are not companions — affairs happen, partners are left, love goes unrequited, and accidents of the heart happen as frequently as they do with dishes.

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