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Sex Education Heals
“Concealment makes the soul a swamp. Confession is how you drain it.” -Charles M. Blow
To my mind, the most powerful reckoning we make in this lifetime is with our sexual selves. Rarely are we privileged to bear witness to this process in others, even our most intimate others. So, when a NY Times columnisthas the courage to disclose how an act of childhood sexual abuse slowly evolved into a...
A Great Sex Education Read
One of my new favorite books on my nightstand is “Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction” by Debby Herbenick, As one of the most well respected sex educators in the country, Debby has answered thousands of questions about everything sexual from people across the country as the primary responder to literally thousands of questions at the Kinsey Institute. Because...
Revolutionizing Education
“What if our kids really believed we wanted them to have great sex…What if they really believed that we want them to be so passionately in love with someone that they can’t keep their hands off them? What if they really believed we want them to know their own bodies?” -Al Vernacchio
Taking Sex Education out of the dungeon that it has lived in over the last 30 years is an epic step towards...
Curiosity 101: 3 Ways Sex Education Is Broken – And What Fixing It Could Accomplish
Nelson Mandela might not have been talking about sex when he said “Education is the most powerful weapon you can use to change the world.” Yet, there may be no place in the human psyche that this is more true.
Healing Sexual Harassment with Education
“Education is not preparation for life; education is life itself.” –John Dewey
Understanding what it means to have a sexually healthy life is a question that most people face throughout their life and relationship cycles, and for good reason. Human sexuality is among the most powerful and mysterious aspects of our personality. Without learning a basic vocabulary to describe what motivates and...
The Sex Bible
Looking for a Christmas gift that will give you hours of enjoyment? I can heartily recommend this big picture book by Susan Crain Bakos, The Sex Bible. (Yes, you can get them on Good Clean Love). Besides the tasteful full page photographs, the messaging throughout the book supports my belief that sex and love are meant to be the best of friends and that both are greatly enhanced by each other.
Th...
Conflicting Sex Drives
I have been with my partner for over ten years. Our sexual relationship has been positive and balanced until this last year when my wife’s sex drive has dropped to almost nothing. I am afraid to even bring up the topic because it just turns the rest of our relationship sour for days. I know that this is not a fidelity issue, but I don’t know what to do. I am not ready to give up my sexual life and...
Curiosity 101: How an Open Mind Will Enrich Your Sexual Education
Imagine what life might look like if we all had a good, solid dose of comprehensive sex education. Imagine shame and guilt – the two constant companions of countless sex drives – replaced with open-minded curiosity and wonder.
Sex Therapy in Yemen
The cover of the Wall St. Journal today had a fascinating article about an Arab sex therapist who is gaining quite a bit of attention (both negative and positive) by combining a correspondence class in Sex Therapy with teachings from the Koran. As an Islamic woman, Mrs Heba Kotb is taking on the gigantic task of “lifting the veil on a touchy subject.” If that is not the understatement of the year…...
Sex and Sexology with Jaiya
Reknowned sexual health educator and radio show host of “Sex with Jaiya” joins us today to share her extensive training and sexological body worker training with us. Don’t miss her insights and wisdom from her book Red Hot Touchon incorporating the miraculous capacity of our hands to ignite real passion into lovemaking. Explore the many layers of erogenous zones and listen to her story of...
Slow Sex with Nicole Daedone
Explore the “Slow sex movement” with Nicole Daedone, Founder of One Taste and author of “Slow Sex: the art and craft of the female orgasm”. Through the use of mindful attention and a practice she has developed and has taught to thousands, OM (Orgasmic Meditation) offers an easy to adopt daily practice that elevates the cultivation of pleasure to a spiritual practice. Learn how this shift in...
Healing Sex Part 1: How Sex Can Heal Us
“If we could heal only one thing in the human experience and it was our relationship to our sexual selves, everything else would heal as a consequence.” -Wendy Strgar
Sex is at the beginning and end of who we are. Indeed, we are each the most profound products of the sexual act, and the more we learn about our fragile, erotic selves, the more obvious it is that this is the center around which...
Sex & Sensibility with Deborah Roffman
Don’t miss this enlightening new paradigm for talking honestly about sex and sexuality with both children and teens. Deborah Roffman, one of the most highly acclaimed sexual educators in the country applies both uncommon good sense and a commitment to core, universal values to explain the critical importance of providing the answers and fostering an open family dialogue to the questions of...
The Importance of Sex in a Relationship
Is sex important in a relationship? This is a common question. It's a topic that can stir up a range of emotions and concerns for individuals and couples alike. Knowing the value of sex in your relationship and how to maintain a fulfilling sexual connection is important.
Smarter Sex with Stanley Siegel
Bring intelligence to your sex drive with psychotherapist, Stanley Siegel who has evolved his understanding of the healing power of our sex drive over 35 years of practice. Learn how to understand your sexual desires as your brain’s effort to heal painful developmental experiences. Siegel explains how our fantasies connect to our brain’s subconscious efforts to find pleasure in our lingering...
Inventing a Language for Sex
I rarely speak directly about sex. I feel like I am still inventing a language that I can use comfortably in the world, one that envelops the physical, but also transcends it. It is important to talk about orgasm, and to understand the power of it in daily life. But so much of this language has been usurped by an industry that sells us cheap images of organs, or people who feel like they just met...
Healthy Sex Ed with Reid Mihalko
Not all sex education is created equally, and learning some sex positive lessons with humor and integrity might be as good as it gets… Reid Mihalko has taught over 30,000 individuals in his sex education workshops around the world. Reid educates articulately and authentically on everything from learning your sexual boundaries to exploring and allowing deep pleasure into your life, this...
What is Healthy Sex in Marriage?
Question:
My question is pretty vague! What does it look like to have a healthy sex life in marriage?
The background to my question is: My husband of 18 years is working on getting over a pornography addiction. I have some sexual abuse issues from childhood. So we are both messed up. Initially when we married I tried to be fun and sexy and would not get much response so I often felt rejected. He’d...
Celebrating Sex that Works with Pride
“Sex that works depends on our being able to trust ourselves, and our ability to trust ourselves depends on understanding who we are and how we relate to the people around us.” Wendy Strgar, Sex That Works.
It bodes well for my new book, Sex that Works, to launch on the first day of Pride month. For nearly 5 decades, the LGBT community has commemorated the Stonewall Inn Protest of 1969 each June....
How to Have Sex with Paul Joannides
Listen in as Wendy explores the best sex guide on the market: The Guide to Getting it On with author Paul Joannides. In its sixth edition, filled with over 900 pages of practical skill based lessons and a balanced, healthy emotional approach to creating a satisfying and evolving sex life. Don’t miss one of the masters of sexual education talk about the core of sexual education and health.
Taking Sex Out of the Darkness
“Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity.” – Hippocrates
I spent five years writing a book about how to make sex work in your life, but pretty much since its publication, almost all of the conversations I have are about the sex that permeates our lives that doesn’twork. The unfolding revelations about rampant sexual abuses began with the brave and bold and...
A Great Sex Life with Lou Paget
Join best selling author and sex educator Lou Paget share the secrets of a great sex life which she has learned in her world wide sexual seminars. With a keen ability to listen for the questions under the questions, Lou provides not only the tips and techniques that can improve your sex life right now, but is able to provide the assurances and calm that allow for a deeper look into the mystery of...
6 Tricks To Slow Down Sex
According to recent research American heterosexual sex lasts only 7.3 minutes on average. What is the rush, people? If we compare sex to dining, Americans are the sexual equivalent of a fast food joint- an In-N-Out, if you will. Sex, like food, is supposed to be savored. It should be a four course meal.
Oral Sex: Understand, Improve and Appreciate It
“Sex is a part of nature. I go along with nature.” -Marilyn Monroe
Oral sex is, at once, one of the most desirable sexual experiences and the one that still carries enough discomfort to still call it taboo in some circles. There was a time when you could get arrested for it. Still, in the vast sea of sexuality, developing a healthy connection and building skill to oral ways of loving have a power...
The Courage to Communicate About Sex & Pleasure
When our friends at Dame recently appeared on “Megyn Kelly TODAY” to talk about the pleasure gap, we knew the term had officially gone mainstream. And for good reason. The statistics on how often women reach orgasm compared to men are striking, especially in heterosexual relationships. And yet, to many women this news isn't all that surprising. Why is that? And what can we do to elevate and validate women's pleasure?
Real Touch and Sex Ed in the News
The awakening is real. The time of concealment is over. And it's not just all those pussy hats making the rounds during the 2nd National Women’s March, or the unprecedented number of women running for office, or the relentless outing of formerly powerful men who used their positions to sexually violate others. The real news is how the conversation is being extended to discuss what has heretofore been off limits...
Making Sex the Glue in Your Relationship
I have had sex thousands of times with the same man. We have been married for close to four decades. Our sex life has been the blessing that has kept us working through the challenges and that, even now, makes our shared grief digestible. Of all of the skills I have developed over the years of building Good Clean Love, sustaining our sexual life, growing up erotically, and sharing intimacy over the span of decades is why I keep writing these columns.
Sex at Dawn with Christopher Ryan, PhD.
Anything you think you have understood about sexuality deserves to hear this remarkable conversation with Christopher Ryan, PhD., co-author of Sex at Dawnwith his wife Cacilda Jetha, MD. Without question two of the most educated and well researched thinkers explore the origin and evolutionary nature of human sexuality with a convincing array of interdisciplinary scientific evidence from...
Deborah Roffman on Talking to Kids About Sex
Deborah Roffman, a nationally renowned sexuality educator specializing in talking to children grade 4-12, shares some basic tips on how to approach talking to your kids about sex.
Visit us at TheOpeningDoor.org to listen to the full interview.
Healing Sex Part 2: Individual Sexual Healing
“Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.” -Gary Zukav
The other day I got a note from a loyal customer who shared the unfortunate story of her husband’s poorly executed penile implant that left him both significantly shorter and with erectile issues. Her request that I address some writing towards sexual healing, particularly aligned with...
Why You Should Join the Slow Sex Movement
According to recent research American heterosexual sex lasts only 7.3 minutes on average. What is the rush, people? If we compare sex to dining, Americans are the sexual equivalent of a fast food joint- an ‘In-N-Out’, if you will.
Sex, like food, is supposed to be savored. It should be a four course meal. You don’t just walk into a fancy restaurant and demand your main course. You take your time....
Reinventing the Visual Sex Ed Industry with Mark Schoen
Mark Schoen, an award-winning sexual education filmmaker and founder of SexSmartFilms.com, shares his insights and unique perspective on the differences between sexual health films and pornographic content. His ideas of building a visual frame of reference that can both expand your capacity to communicate and understand your sexuality will change the way you look at sexual content and even your...
Three Easy Ways to Step up Your Sex Life
“Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. ‘Yes’ is the answer.” -Swami X
Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the top reasons cited when we leave our relationships. It is also one of this life’s most worthy challenges to take on; not only for the meaning and pleasure it can bring to our relationships, but also for the very real health benefits that a satisfying sex life bestows on our well being. I...
Strategies for Talking to Your Kids About Sex With Deborah Roffman
Having sexual conversations, even among adults are perhaps the most challenging discourse to engage in, no wonder most parents dread “the talk” that they often don’t feel competent or confident to give their children. Don’t miss this honest and authentic conversation with Deborah Roffman, award winning sex educator and author of Talk to Me First for the strategies and confidence you need to not...
Learning to Feel: 3 Ways to Save Your Sex Life
“Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror… Just keep going. No feeling is final.”-Rainier Maria Rilke
We can’t choose which feelings we want to experience. What most people don’t realize in their selective attention to their feelings is that as we block our ability to feel any particular emotion, it actually impacts all of our emotional capacity, not just the things we are trying to...
Curiosity 101: How to Have Real Conversations About Sex with Your Kids
Talking to your kids about sex can feel a bit intimidating. There’s a lot to cover, and you may be feeling pressure to do it ‘right.’ However, it’s never too early or too late to start talking to your children about sex, relationships, and their bodies.
The Opening Door- Show 55: Stanley Siegel, Your Brain On Sex
Connecting the dots between how our subconscious mind works to heal our most deeply held conflicts and pain through erotic pleasure is a journey to embodying our sexual selves. Stanley Siegel, author of Your Brain On Sex, offers his provocative and unique wisdom that will awaken you to the power of your erotic fantasies and free you to experience the healing power they contain. Don’t miss this...
Beauty of a Woman Blog Fest 2015: Why We Need Sex Ed
This year, we’re excited to be a part of August McLaughlin’s Beauty of a Woman BlogFest 2015. Not only does this online event celebrate collective female beauty and sexuality, but readers of this blog are also invited to go forth to read, learn and discuss. Not to mention- you’re eligible for prizes! Check it out!
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Sexual Power Dynamics With Author Ian Kerner | Dear Sex Podcast S1:E1
Dear Sex Podcast | S1:E1
Sex Your Way: Three Steps to Setting Personal Boundaries in the Bedroom
If someone close to you asked you to describe your ideal sexual experience, what kind of encounter would you describe? How would it begin? Who (and what) would be involved? Where would it take place? Most importantly, how would it feel?
For some, the answers to these questions may be easy to articulate. For others, not so much. Being able to voice our deepest personal needs and desires is not...
Reconciling My Sexy Self
“Sex is full of lies. The body tries to tell the truth. But, it’s usually too battered with rules to be heard, and bound with pretenses so it can hardly move. We cripple ourselves with lies.” -Jim Morrison
I love sex. There is little else in life that eclipses the culmination of release, joy and satisfaction that I experience every time I make love.
There, I said it.
Moreover, I would even...