“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.” -Brene Brown, author and researcher
Maybe you've heard of BDSM (bondage, dominance/discipline, submission and sadomasochism/sadism and masochism) yet aren’t completely sure what it is. The term refers to practices that involve domination and control. There is not one specific way to practice BDSM but infinite ways and it is considered a sexual practice often including elements of bondage and discipline, submission and sadomasochism. Usually one person takes a submissive role while the other is dominant.
If you currently practice BDSM or wish to try, it’s vitally important to ensure that you feel safe and loved during your entire experience. Practicing BDSM can be a great way to explore sexuality and new sensations and may increase intimacy and vulnerability for interested partners.
Understanding the words behind BDSM is the perfect place to begin.
Best practices for safe, positive experiences:
While BDSM may vary dramatically in how it is practiced–it is critical to make consent the first step. That consent can be written or verbal from both involved. Here are three considerations we believe essential to ensuring a positive, loving experience when practicing BDSM..
Feeling safe is paramount. Set an intention with your partner at the start to enjoy a mutually loving experience. Clear communication and boundaries along with an emphasis on listening and the consideration of your partner will help ensure a positive experience for both. Listen to your instincts and participate in a way that ensures your complete comfort.
Love has boundaries and setting your boundaries will help ensure you can be your best self and thrive in all you do. Learn more.
