by Wendy Strgar April 22, 2010
I came home the winner tonight from the local entrepreneurs speed pitch competition. Eleven companies had three minutes to tell their stories and then the room of business investors and entrepreneurs voted. It’s no easy task to share the power and vision behind your life’s work in three minutes. Actually just standing up in front of a big room of people with a timer ticking away is a win. I used notecards that maybe I didn’t need but I wasn’t going to risk it.
Winners always look like they have it altogether, and I suppose at the moment they win all kinds of things have come together on their behalf. I can tell you that this win is far from mine alone. This is true about most real wins; that there is always a team of dedicated people who believe in a vision that makes something real. On our own we accomplish nothing; the winner just gets to be a the front of the line. It takes time to learn how much success depends on a community of talent.
Emerson once said, “Win as if you were used to it, lose as if you enjoyed it for a change.” I have been working for a long time to turn my talent into the skills I needed to be able to articulate and execute my goal. It has taken years for the pieces to come together for this win to have happened tonight. It feels great to be recognized for the vision and determination that it took me to get to this point.
Winning is a sign that you have figured out what was missing in all the near misses that came before. It is the reward for believing that you only fail when you quit.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018