by Wendy Strgar August 12, 2010
The day was marked by ease and grace. I am in travel mode, on the road to a medical convention to share the wonders of Good Clean Love. These travel days can be stressful with so many details and unknowns mingling together; I have had many days, when what should have been easy was incredibly challenging, and other days like today, when things are so easy, that it seems just my presence is enough to make things click.
Moments of ease and grace are more common than we think, but today it was my 12 year old daughter Emma who reminded me in the elevator on the way up to our room, what a perfect day it was. Her older sister asked her why? And she said, “Well nothing went wrong.” And in fact, just her mentioning it gave us pause to consider all that went right.
We were able to set up the booth despite missing the hall closing time, we found a great little Mexican place for dinner, and we got free parking at the hotel because they didn’t have my suite available. It just kept being easy.
If happiness is indeed the purpose of life then realizing that it is in our midst is the key. Taking the time to notice when it is working in our life and relationships is all that it takes to re-focus our mind and feel grateful for what is working. What we focus on multiplies, so learning to recognize and acknowledge the small victories, the way things just happen exactly as they needed to, even before we are aware of it, is a focus that creates contentment.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018