by Wendy Strgar August 28, 2010
A friend of mine gave me this quote framed more than twenty years ago when I was moving away to a new life. It has been hanging in my home ever since and has come to be one of the truths that I come back to over and over about learning to relate. As soon as we think we have a relationship figured out, we fall into the easy pattern of assuming we know someone. Then something happens that surprises us that wakes us up again to the truth that when it comes to the work of relationships, life is a spiral.
I have come to know this as a constant in raising my children. Whether it is a phase that is driving us all crazy or my motherly confidence of being able to predict their behaviors, I have learned over the years that this too shall pass, and remarkably also come back around. Nowhere is the spiral of development more evident than in witnessing the process of growing up.
Goethe wrote, “Progress has not followed a straight ascending line, but a spiral with rhythms of progress and retrogression, of evolution and dissolution.” This is the truth about our most rewarding and challenging relationships. We learn in small and digestible doses the intricacies and complexities of how to approach, leave space and communicate about the issues that define our relationships. Each time they come around, we are different and so our ability to work with them is different and a little more evolved with each turn of the wheel.
To the untrained eye or the impatient heart, this can feel like going out of the way, falling off track or getting mired in the past. But it is the process of going through over and over that actually moves us upward, closer to our best and highest selves. It is tedious work and time consuming, but it is the only route to new beginnings, to finding the place where another circle can be drawn.
Today I had this lovely spiral experience with our new CEO. It caught me off guard, because this was the first time we had made it around to the new beginning and parts of the route were so challenging as to making us both wonder if the dissolution was the truth of it. His skill set, experience and communication styles that are so important for the balanced growth the company needs now, can either be perceived as opposite or complementary to my own, depending on our capacity and willingness to stretch, accommodate and understand. Finding our way to back to partnership was a great lesson in how to see the next circle being drawn.
by Wendy Strgar February 20, 2018 3 Comments
Lately when I am up in the middle of the night pondering (some might say ruminating) on the sea changes moving through my life, I remember that if I can’t change my mind, I can’t change anything else.
It’s ironic — these late night self-chats — because often during the daylight hours, I am the instigator of change, the one leading the charge to...
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