Good Clean Reads

Don’t miss this enlightening new paradigm for talking honestly about sex and sexuality with both children and teens. Deborah Roffman, one of the most highly acclaimed sexual educators in the country applies both uncommon good sense and a commitment to core, universal values to explain the critical importance of providing the answers and fostering an open family dialogue to the questions of...

“There is no life as complete as the life that is lived by choice.”  -Unknown

The problem with many relationships is that we don’t trust our own choices. For many couples this lack of trust starts early in the relationship, when we first encounter the difficulties of the relationship or, more challenging still, the foibles of our chosen partner. We question whether we have made a mistake in...

As I mentioned before, I have been taking positivity into the world. The volunteer project consuming most of  my time this year has been at my child’s high school.

I love kids. They are so awake and honest and their affections or disappointment is real and immediate. Our group holds more than fifty kids, all of whom I adore. Many have been close with my children for many years. Watching kids grow...

“If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking.”  ~Buddhist Proverb

Working as I have for decades on learning how to sustain and nourish lasting relationships has brought me continuously back to the same question of how to learn to stay both in my own relationships as well as in many others that I have counseled. Usually the question is a reflection of the...

It has become exceedingly clear that the only way I will ever make progress in turning my 500-plus pages of Positivity Quest blog into a book is to do it everyday, just like I wrote the blog. It must be like a new resolution that at least five days a week,  something is adjusted to fit into the new manuscript.

Unfortunately, when you are looking at a mountain of paper it is hard to know where to...

“The way to know life is to love many things.” – Vincent Van Gogh

It is safe to say that Valentines Day is a loaded gun. For as many people truly get to celebrate the love they share with their intimate relations, there are at least as many who struggle with feeling unloved and, worse still, unlovable. Our collective sense of being unlovable might well be the single most toxic belief our culture...

“For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”  -Rilke

Imagine if we began our relationships with the vow, “I take you as my burden, to have and to hold from this day forward.” Call me jaded, but I think if people understood that committing to love someone over...

“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” -George Bernard Shaw

Most of us take ourselves way too seriously, especially when it comes to our relationships. The more our heart is bared and the deeper we grow in our commitments, the more we have riding on the outcome. Ironically, instead of helping us to lighten up, our most intimate relationships often push...

Learn to make sense of the pain and insecurity that plagues our most intimate relationships with Dr. Stan Tatkin, author of Wired for Love. His reassuring voice resonates with deep wisdom about how to grow the skill base that can turn your relationship into the safe, engaging and healing journey that it was meant to be. Stan’s knowledge is grounded in the latest brain science and extensive...