The V-Word

"Sex has a way of softening limbs,
oiling joints and melding hearts.

We burrow in closer
wrapping arms and legs over and under each other.

Earthly blanket of sleep covers us two bodies releasing one breath.

Finding home,
coiled and tucked in each other’s sweat."

-Wendy Lee

I feel compelled to say something about having sex even when your relationship feels like it doesn’t quite deserve it.

There are a few important things to say about exercise and love. The first is that working hard in strengthening your physical body is a powerful metaphor for the daily stamina it takes to make love sustainable. Feeling physically strong helps to strengthen your ability to respond proactively in stressful situations.

I just recently started exercise (Pilates) classes after many years...

I read yet another memoir in this month’s issue of Moremagazine about the dissolution of yet another marriage. This is a story that is familiar, so many women, more than not, can relate to it, and even some of the women who are still married can kind of relate, because there are plenty of married couples who have one foot out the door. This essay was thoughtful, insightful and well written...

Interesting article in the New York Times today about the People who share a bed and the things they say about it… The author Paul Rosenblatt interviewed 42 couples, most heterosexual married, but the study also included a small sample of homosexual non-married couples. According to the National Sleep Foundation, 61% of Americans share their bed and surprisingly, of the individual’s polled...

What about all these DINS out there- have you heard of that group yet? Worse still, are you a member? Apparently it’s growing more rapidly than DINKs – you know them, the couple that looks like they have it all, but actually aren’t getting any- The Dual Income No Sex group. It’s weird, how many couples are willing to give up the best reason to be in a couple without really fighting for it. Or...

Sustainability is the catch phrase of this generation, it means learning how to use current resources in a way that does not harm the future. We hear about this in terms of building homes, cultivating food, and rethinking our natural and energy resources Basically, we are finally being compelled to listen to the voice of indigenous wisdom to our lives in such a way that we can meet the needs of...