by Wendy Strgar July 25, 2011
“What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life.” -Oprah Winfrey
I could jump for joy, it seems that finally I have turned the gratitude corner. My persistent focus on finding the grateful perspective on everything is taking hold and I am watching my anxiety like a neighbor rather than having it take over the house. Even in my lowest moments when fear of the unknown and the uncertainty of these times is nipping at my heels, I am still finding myself a few steps ahead, feeling my way towards receiving.
Letting go is the art at hand. This is easier to focus on than I would have ever imagined. Surrender is as easy as just not needing to have all the answers and yet trusting they are there. I am getting better at it because the more I practice it, the more I am able to see that I was never really controlling all these things that I drove myself crazy trying to control. Also it is a relief once you start practicing this letting go. It makes showing up easier and fun. Today I spontaneously remembered that all I have to do today is have a good day.
Framing the world through these rosy glasses of release and receive is really more fun. Even today with a small attack of poison oak on one arm and the other afflicted with some weird nerve pinching in my shoulder, I was able to live in my body without a heavy story line. Clearly, not entirely free of stress, I was able to come sit next to it and try to be a friend to the stress response that is so deeply patterned in me.
Really in every direction, I can find a grateful picture. Even the places that have held my glance in their tragedy, I can lean towards it with my heart and see something beautiful and loving going on. Gratitude changes everything.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018