Good Clean Reads

I admire people that are trying to make the world better.  It takes so much energy to pay attention and come to a clear understanding of the real issues and, as much opening, to come up with solutions. This is particularly true about sexual matters because we all carry around so much baggage, much of it invisible even to us.

It is surprisingly not uncommon to not know why you are behaving the way...

"Boredom is nothing but the experience of a paralysis of our productive powers. "-Erich FrommBoredom is defined as the "state of being weary and restless through lack of interest. " Apply this definition to your sex life and you are suddenly in a crowd. In fact, sexual boredom is one of the most often cited reasons for cheating. The drive forces of this weariness and restlessness usually have less to do with you or your partner than it does with the nature of your partnership.

Listen as author Jim Wysong, shares his hard won wisdom of confronting and overcoming the challenges of being male in today’s society. His new book,  The Neutering of the American Male, offers an healthy alternative to the doom and gloom media predictions of the end of men in American society. Jim argues that the changing societal conditions demand a new balance of love and respect between the...

It has become exceedingly clear that the only way I will ever make progress in turning my 500-plus pages of Positivity Quest blog into a book is to do it everyday, just like I wrote the blog. It must be like a new resolution that at least five days a week,  something is adjusted to fit into the new manuscript.

Unfortunately, when you are looking at a mountain of paper it is hard to know where to...

“Penetration has a spice of divination in it, which tickles our vanity more than any other quality of the mind.” –Francois de la Rochefoucauld

Penetration is a word that is often used to describe the culminating act of sexuality. It’s a word I often use when describing the best use of good lubricant. But recently, after using the word in conjunction with the act, I began to wonder what I was...

Honey bees are messengers of love. The Honey bee hive is a super-organism, living in harmony with 50,000 other bees in a single hive. They are the pollinators for some 70% of the world’s food, transforming the essence of plant life into honey and other healing and nutrient rich products. Man has lived peaceably with honeybees for thousands of years until recently, when scientists began studying...

“The way to know life is to love many things.” – Vincent Van Gogh

It is safe to say that Valentines Day is a loaded gun. For as many people truly get to celebrate the love they share with their intimate relations, there are at least as many who struggle with feeling unloved and, worse still, unlovable. Our collective sense of being unlovable might well be the single most toxic belief our culture...

“For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”  -Rilke

Imagine if we began our relationships with the vow, “I take you as my burden, to have and to hold from this day forward.” Call me jaded, but I think if people understood that committing to love someone over...

“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” -George Bernard Shaw

 

Most of us take ourselves way too seriously, especially when it comes to our relationships. The more our heart is bared and the deeper we grow in our commitments, the more we have riding on the outcome. Ironically, instead of helping us to lighten up, our most intimate relationships often push...