by Wendy Strgar March 22, 2011
"The world is like a ride in an amusement park. And when you choose to go on it you think it's not real because that's how powerful our minds are. And the ride goes up and down and round and round. It has thrills and chills and it's very brightly coloured and it's very loud and it's fun, for a while. Some people have been on the ride for a long time and they begin to question: 'Is this real, or is this just a ride?' And other people have remembered, and they come back to us, they say 'Hey, don't worry, don't be afraid, ever, because this is just a ride.' And we kill those people." ~Bill Hicks
I have been wondering about the edges of what we believe as I have spent the last two days immersed in the Universal theme parks. As great as the Harry Potter park décor and action rides were, the massive crowds made believing in the story and the setting difficult. More interesting even then the wonder of Harry Potter's Wizarding World was the remarkable mastery in combining visual stimulation and motion to so totally confuse the mind that you can't tell when you are in motion or just when your brain thinks you are.
Creating alternative reality is the life blood of theme park existence. We go there to experience fear and risk that has no real risk attached. We go to participate so deeply in stories that others have designed for us, that it is easy to forget who you are and where you are going. The story is compelling and entertaining. Much more difficult to match the intensity that these places will feed us with our own life.
That is the key though, to realize that our own lives have the same potential for drama, excitement, conflict and resolution. In fact many of the story lines in the theme parks are based on life issues common to all of us. It is fun to suspend disbelief for a few days inside the sets of these world class amusement parks. Better still to suspend disbelief about the movie set I am working to embody in my real life.
The key to that is also recognizing that it is just part of the play.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018