Asking for Help

by Wendy Strgar October 15, 2014

“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -Dalai Lama

I spend most of my days trying to help but am only just learning how to receive help. The weakest link and most meaningful learning in my fledgling practice to receive help is in having the courage to ask and believe I can get the help I need.  This applies to everything from cleaning up a 100 year mess I inherited behind my house, to figuring out how to connect to my teenage daughter. The more I practice this often overlooked skill, the more I realize just how far a little help goes.

Truth is that both giving and receiving help are 2 sides of the same coin and for all the giving I did for years without the capacity to receive, I now understand how the giving was a burden rather than a joy – a transformation which happens naturally when the help goes both ways.

This column is a space where I have been remiss in not reciprocating in asking for help. So here I am asking-  I have to hit 250 votes to qualify for a Chase competition which would allow us to grow our capacity, our communication and our unique brand of love in the world.  Please take a minute to help with a vote of confidence.

Go here to vote!

Help us compete for a  $150,000 small business grant from Chase Mission Mainstreet by this Friday (10/17). 

Share this link with a friend or two or three –

With love and gratitude for your help.

Wendy

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