How to Find True Pleasure in Relationships - Good Clean Love

How to Find True Pleasure in Relationships

“What we learn with pleasure we never forget.” Alfred Mercier

In our culture, so focused on instant gratification, it is easy to lose sight of what creates a long-lasting and deeply healing experience of pleasure. While instant gratification does feed our brains with a dopamine response, making us constantly want more, the deep experience of true pleasure resets the chemical balances in the brain and body towards centeredness. Sadly, many of the things we use to get instant satisfaction, whether drugs, alcohol or food can be harmful on repeat—but true pleasure does not cause harm. More profoundly, real pleasure is an act of forgiveness both internally and in our relationships—it heals the past in the present, releasing us into a new way of seeing ourselves and the potential in our life.

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How to Get Turned On: Easy Ways to Become Aroused - Good Clean Love

How to Get Turned On: Easy Ways to Become Aroused

The arousal response is your body’s natural mechanism for accessing pleasure. Although often confused with the genital swelling that accompanies our arousal response, the ignition for our arousal lives in the sexiest organ of our body—our brain. Specifically, in the limbic area of the brain, which processes memory and emotion and is conveniently co-located with our olfactory bulb, our sense of smell invigorates our emotional process, our access to memories, and our feeling of being turned on. Truly, your orgasmic potential begins with your ability to cultivate your arousal mechanism.

The ability to orgasm remains one of the most coveted and yet misunderstood human experiences. We often believe it is solely a genital experience, but our ability to climax reverberates throughout the body and initiates deep in the brain. Below is an easy-to-use guide that, with a unique blend of practice and letting go, will help move you from arousal to orgasm.

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How To Tell Someone You Appreciate Them - Good Clean Love

How To Tell Someone You Appreciate Them

Reflect on a moment when a friend or loved one enveloped you in heartfelt appreciation, instilling in you a profound sense of value and cherishment. This warm glow of gratitude is not just uplifting—it is transformative. It invites us to pause and celebrate the people, moments, and experiences that add depth and richness to our lives. Such reflection reveals the delicate balance between vulnerability and confidence in our relationships. By embracing our vulnerabilities as strengths, we unlock deeper connections and foster personal growth.
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An Intro to Gender Pronouns: How to Recognize and Respect Someone’s Identity - Good Clean Love

An Intro to Gender Pronouns: How to Recognize and Respect Someone’s Identity

Our cultural conceptualization of gender as a society is changing. Most of us are aware of the rise in the use of gender-neutral pronouns, as the cultural visibility of others who do not feel identified within the gender binary has increased in recent years. About one in five Americans personally know someone who prefers a pronoun other than ‘he’ or ‘she’. Many of us may not understand what preferred gender pronouns are and why they are crucial to many.

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Birth Control: An Equal Responsibility - Good Clean Love

Birth Control: An Equal Responsibility

Bringing a human life into this world transforms a couple’s lives forever. Planning when and if you choose to do so is important for every couple’s future. The timing of...
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Healthy Reasons to Make More Love - Good Clean Love

Healthy Reasons to Make More Love

“Wherever you are is the entry point.”  -KabirOur sexual lives often are held apart from the considerations and habits we maintain around the rest of our health. This is an erroneous...
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Thought About Dating a Friend? Take a Chance on Love - Good Clean Love

Thought About Dating a Friend? Take a Chance on Love

“Where there is great love, there are always miracles.” -Willa Cather If you missed the 1989 romantic comedy, When Harry Met Sally, see it–not because it ranks 23rd on The...
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Friendship: Vital for Our Whole-Being - Good Clean Love

Friendship: Vital for Our Whole-Being

A Friendship Blessing Poem by John O’Donohue May you be blessed with good friends. May you learn to be a good friend to yourself. May you be able to journey...
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Two Great Books by One Loveologist - Good Clean Love

Two Great Books by One Loveologist

“The act of loving in whatever form requires a willingness to experience both the pain and pleasure. This is the piece of sustaining loving relationships that is easy to miss,...
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