by Wendy Strgar April 18, 2010
Today was my son’s 14th birthday. I told him everything I could remember about his first birthday. It is remarkable how some of life’s memories are so vivid, they are as fresh and detailed as though they happened yesterday. Equally amazing is the wonder of human development, that this almost teenager was also that tiny baby. Fourteen is an important milestone in the seven year cycle that Waldorf education acknowledges as the time of significant leaps in emotional, mental and physical development.
Birthdays are how we mark time, whether in our own lives or through the people we love. Watching a child grow up is as direct an experience of the passage of time as there is. It may even be more obvious than my own aging, which is tricky because my spirit still feels young. But watching your kid gain inches on you year after year is one way to know that you too are falling into the generation gap that looked very different from a youthful perception. The most important lesson that I learn from celebrating birthdays is that the single objective in life is to grow. This is true whether you are growing up or growing old, which is why Lincoln was right when he said that “in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”
"Birth: The Mission Begins," Toward a Meaningful Life: The Wisdom of the Rebbe, 1995
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018