by Wendy Strgar June 17, 2010
“I want to stand as close to the edge as I can without going over. Out on the edge you see all the kinds of things you can’t see from the center.” –Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.
In my twenties I bought a poster of some guy hanging off the side of a cliff with Jayne Howard’s quote, “If you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much room.” I always liked to think of myself as someone who pushes life to the edge. It was a way for me to create a relationship to the part of me that defied societal conventions. It was a comforting way to explain the many times that I found myself on the fringes of social groups, unable to connect.
This positivity quest has offered me a whole new view of what the edge looks and feels like. Beyond a way to reconcile my social life, I now understand the edge as the place where people create themselves and their reality simultaneously. This has been a growing recognition over the many years of manifesting Good Clean Love. The times when my company dreams had the most flesh and I was most alive in them has always been while spending time with the friends I made who live there too.
There is actually a huge tribe of us, living at the edge, I have discovered. It is an interesting place to homestead as the edges seem to be in continuous flux. But everyone here is dedicated to what they can create within these moving lines. The most inspired among us, seem to not even be paying attention to where reality as it is defined falls off. Some of those friends have learned by default the truth of human flight. As D. H. Lawrence reminded us: “When one jumps over the edge, one is bound to land somewhere.”
I heard myself telling an interested investor today that the best part of the life is accumulating the experiences. It is so much richer than money as wealth goes. Getting to know other people who are busy making the world work, people who are driven to create and as a byproduct accomplish remarkable things, people who live on the edge of solutions is as rich as life gets for me. Focusing on and believing in my own capacity to create the world I imagine is the win.
This passion is compelling for those looking in. The witnesses know this edge for what it is, the place where imagination is more powerful than reality. This is the energetic field noted by increasing numbers of quantum physicists, where the observer impacts physical reality. It is not accessible from the center. Maybe Henry Miller said it best when he said,“We live at the edge of the miraculous.”
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018