by Wendy Strgar June 27, 2010
When we store a memory in our heart and not in our mind we create a pathway for gratitude. One of my favorite new meditation techniques is called the Midline Meditation. In this meditation, practitioners focus on the physical sensation of the midline of the body, the root of our nervous system and the connection to a source of energy that is referred to as dynamic stillness. The meditation technique was derived from the study and practice of dynamic cranial sacral work, and is based on working with the primal streak, which is the most primary embryological structure in all life forms.
Much of the midline work originates from the heart field, which extends and has been measured at least ten feet away. Sixty percent of heart cells are neurons, which like brain cells, are the intelligence of the organ. What your heart senses and feels is often shrugged off as somehow less accurate or reliable than brain thought, which is ironic considering that the heart has an energy field 60 times as powerful as our brains.
Learning to use the power that we all hold at the center of our being is a function of one’s capacity to interpret the world and our individual circumstances with gratitude. For most of us, a re-training is required. Not only do we change our focus outwards, but more importantly we learn to identify the experience inward. Feeling our heart, even one filled with grief or fear, gives us access to the felt sense of our lives that we can cultivate and can act as a guide through life.
In turn, this spaciousness inside, helps us to turn our gaze outward to appreciating life as it is. This shift in outer vision is a small revolution that creates a life of gratitude and a nervous system that is comfortable at ease. An ancient Roman scholar, Marcus Cicero taught that, “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.”
A grateful heart is also a generous one and it can make sense of the past by making peace with the present... It opens the way to a future that is worth dreaming about. I spent several hours focused on my heart today. I am grateful in my whole body for it. System reset, how lucky I am to have this life.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018