by Wendy Strgar October 05, 2010
I have fallen out of practice. It happens so quickly that I didn’t even notice that I have not found the time to meditate for days. The schedule has shifted and the morning starts too early so that my standing early morning meditation has been lost. At first I would say, I will do it later. Then I just stopped thinking of doing it. I have felt off center for days and today while talking about losing my center, I realized how long it had been since I practiced being quiet.
Peter McWilliams reminds me, “Some people think that meditation takes time away from physical accomplishment. Taken to extremes, of course, that’s true. Most people, however, find that meditation creates more time than it takes.” The time I give up from sleep or work to meditate slows time down. I wake more refreshed, I work with more clarity. I feel the center long enough to navigate through a day.
My meditation practice has grown to be the foundation of my positivity quest. It has been the single practice in all these days that has shown me as gently as anything could where I am shutting down or closing myself to what is. It is the moment of seeing that my mind is not controlling or directing. It is the place where I have learned to listen. It is this place that has given space to a voice that loves me especially in the moments that I can’t. Jeremy Taylor wrote:”Meditation is the tongue of the soul and the language of our spirit.”
I am glad to know what is missing now and happy to begin again.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018