September 27th is National Singles Day, and while people have mixed feelings about being single—some love it, some can’t wait to find a partner—this day is a reminder that romance doesn’t begin and end with a relationship. It starts with you.
Loving yourself is the foundation of all other intimacy. Learning what feels good, what brings you joy, and how to communicate those needs begins with exploring them for yourself.
And yes, solo pleasure is not a stand-in for partnered intimacy, but it’s a vital form of self-connection. It builds confidence, deepens self-understanding, and helps you embrace your desires with openness and ease. If and when you explore intimacy again with a partner, your knowledge of what you want will only help make the experience better for both of you.
Date Yourself: Solo Ideas To Practice Self-Love
You don’t need permission from anyone else to experience love, care, and intimacy. You can cultivate that energy for yourself, and the ripple effects will reach every other part of your life.
Think of these solo-date ideas as a spectrum, from sweet and nurturing to sexy and bold. Start where you feel comfortable, and let yourself explore.
Write yourself a love letter: Find a quiet moment, grab a notebook or some stationery, and address yourself like your best friend—which you are. Write down everything you love about yourself and read it back whenever you need a reminder.
Get a table for one: Dress up, choose your favorite restaurant, order the dishes you love most, and buy yourself a drink. And yes, get dessert.
Create an at-home spa: Take a long bath, use scented oils, light candles, and play your favorite soft music.
Explore your fantasies: Read something sexy, watch a sensual film, or listen to audio erotica with an app like Dipsea or Quinn.
Experiment with toys: Go to a sex toy shop and find something new to try.
Self-pleasure workshop: Dedicate an hour to exploring your body with no agenda other than discovering what feels good.
Need a Little Help Exploring Self-Love?
If your goal this Singles Day is to explore a little self-pleasure, our Lube Discovery Kit is the perfect place to start. With different textures and sensations to try, it makes discovering what feels good a playful and personalized experience.
If you’re craving more of a spa night and gentle self-care, our Balance Wash is the perfect bath or shower companion. Pair it with our Restore Vaginal Moisturizing Gel and Reset Probiotic Suppository for long-term vaginal comfort and care. Self-love isn’t just about pleasure in the moment, it’s about creating rituals that keep you feeling confident, comfortable, and connected to your body every day.
