by Wendy Strgar September 10, 2014
The first conscious thought I strive to have each day is a grateful one.
Lately I am awake at least a couple of times – in and out of weird, anxious dreams. So it is not unusual that my first thoughts are anxious too. It is amazing how fast a couple of errant anxious ideas can spiral down into low grade rumination. Reminding myself through mediation to first create a grateful moment changes everything.
Sometimes it is easy just to remember how grateful I am to hear my dog breathing heavily and regular beside my bed. Or I just lay awake in early dawn listening to the silence and thanking my lucky stars that I could be born to this beautiful peaceful existence. Many times I turn and see my husbands’ rounded back and the rise and fall of his breath and remember how many mornings I have been blessed to wake up next to him. I spend the next fifteen minutes recreating a visceral experience of gratitude. Like floating on the top of a warm tropical ocean.
Some days when yoga feels too hard, I set my intention on gratitude. Feeling grateful for the hard work, for losing my balance, the wandering mind or the aching hip joints changes the experience of each qualitatively. It is no wonder that gratitude is one of the cornerstones of positivity consciousness The most fundamental aspect of a grateful heart is not only that it is open and non-judgmental, but it is also creative. Risk taking comes more easily because you know that there is really nothing to lose.
In every situation , even the most challenging, there is an aspect of gratitude if you look for it.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018