“It is said that desire is a product of the will, but the converse is in fact true: will is a product of desire.” -Denis Diderot

It seems as if everyone is talking about female desireor actually, the rampant lack of it, in the press lately. It is a conversation that happens often at my Good Clean Love office and in many ways is our raison d’etre. It was my own discouraging experience of female...

‘Great is the art of beginning, but greater is the art of ending.’ ~Lazarus Long

Holidays are challenging times for many people. Rather than a storehouse of loving memories, for many of us holidays serve as annual reminders of the dysfunction and pain that characterized family life. As unique as the stories are between families, the feelings of loneliness, disappointment and worthlessness...

“Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Life is made of moments of unraveling. There are good reasons everyday that things come undone, but perhaps none so painful as the un-doing of our most intimate relationships. It is easy to understand how living with the difficult emotions of disappointment, embarrassment and the irritation and resentment associated with...

Each month, Good Clean Love gathers insightful ideas and strategies from our readers on maintaining a sustainable relationship. This month as we honor Breast Cancer Awareness month, we are asking our readers to join us and share stories of how they healed the pain and loss associated with cancer and other kinds of serious illness.

What are the key strategies or ideas that helped you overcome this...

If ever an expression defined human behavior, it is the notion that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Ovid, an ancient Roman philosopher and poet was perhaps the first when he said that “the harvest is always more fruitful in another man’s fields.” This sense that life is better for others has perhaps its strongest and most debilitating hold on us as it affects our...

“The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.”?~ Wilhelm Reich

If I could redirect 5% of the money spent on buying sex in the world, I would make sex therapy available for everyone. Who among us couldn’t use a bit of honest communication, non- judgmental listening and questions answered about what makes us...

‘The truth is, to a guy, a hooker isn’t all that different from a hookup.’

The enormity of the sex trade economy and the conservative estimate of forty million prostitutes worldwide that service it pales in comparison to the tens of millions of faceless ‘johns’ who fuel it. Who are all these men that create an endless demand for sexual services that most of us cannot even imagine. Sex for money...

The relationship between money and sex is as old as the human race itself. Prostitution, often called the oldest profession on the planet, is also the one that employs more women than any other. The range of meaning when it comes to sex for money arrangement is as large as the vast economy it produces. The deep and pervasive relationship of sex and money is not going away; if anything it is a...

Hooking up is not a new practice. It is, however, beginning to be socially acceptable. These days it seems like everyone’s doing it, and well, if you haven’t experimented with hooking up, you probably will, too. While it is exciting to list off Saturday night conquests to a lunch table of your closest girlfriends, hooking up can go horribly wrong. Thus, in order to have the most enjoyable...

As an introduction to my experience with an online dating site, I thought I’d share a related article I recently discovered in Glamour magazine. Rather than discuss dating websites, the Glamour report “Sex With A Stranger” chose to investigate another, much skimpier phenomenon- cyber sex gone live. According to this report, a multitude of women are turning to the Internet for “empowering” sexual...

I wasn’t exactly sure what to expect when I first stepped through the door of the charming Victorian house that the Investigator Academy would be held in for two weeks. Like many others, I had assumed that human trafficking consisted primarily of sex trafficking (a large part, but merely a part of) a much bigger, more disturbing picture. With 25 other citizens from all walks of life, I learned...

‘We always deceive ourselves twice about the people we love – first to their advantage, then to their disadvantage.’ Albert Camus

The percentage of people impacted by infidelity is between 30-60% of all married couples, depending on the study cited. More interesting than the differing rates of occurrence for men and women are the different patterns of infidelity for each gender.

Cheating men...