Good Clean Reads

“Sex that works depends on our being able to trust ourselves, and our ability to trust ourselves depends on understanding who we are and how we relate to the people around us.”  Wendy Strgar, Sex That Works.

It bodes well for my new book, Sex that Works, to launch on the first day of Pride month. For nearly 5 decades, the LGBT community has commemorated the Stonewall Inn Protest of 1969 each June....

“The simple act of being completely attentive and present… is an act of love, and it fosters unshakeable well-being.”  Sharon Salzberg

Mother’s Day has always been a difficult holiday for me. As a daughter who struggled most of my life with my mother’s lackluster attention for me and as a mother who overcompensated for all the things I longed for in childhood but was often overwhelming for my own...

"If bread is the first necessity of life, recreation is a close second" -Edward BellamyI was turning 33 the year that I could not get pregnant. My previous pregnancies were not first timers but having unprotected sex whenever we wanted made the trying more fun. But this time, by the 8th or 9th cycle we had tried everything that had worked before - herbal teas, lying in bed with my legs up the wall, recording my temperature every morning… nothing seemed to make a difference.

“There is more to life than increasing its speed.”  Mohandas K. Gandhi

As I write this advice about love, I am flying over the pacific on my way home from my favorite place on earth, Hawaii. It is the only place that I have ever traveled that I never feel ready to leave. Maybe it’s because I more readily can find a slower rhythm of life here in the tropics, or because the days start so much later...

Walking into your bedroom should make your heart rate slow down. It should be the place where you sigh deeply and your whole body relaxes. The bedroom is your nest. A singular space that both regenerates you on a cellular level every night as you sleep and provides the environment and impetus for physical intimacy. As the place where we love deeply, procreate our next generation and regenerate...

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” -Alan Watts

I can’t get this film out of my head. Watching it at 35,000 feet with the melting ice caps continually under my windows view has cemented this new altered reality into my head. Before the Flood, the new release by Leonardo DiCaprio in cooperation with National Geographic should be the...

There are more breakups associated with Valentine’s Day than any other holiday – mostly because all of our perceived slights and disappointments that happen every day are on full display on that day.

"The way you make love is the way God will be with you. " RumiOne of the great mysteries in life is the way in which our sexual encounters, especially the most memorable and passionate ones, live outside of normal space and time. It's almost as if time stands still and bends itself around the encounter. Minutes that fly by in a moment seem to last hours and hours. It is in fact this space that we create outside of ordinary reality that makes ordinary sex extraordinary.

“Marriage is not 50-50, Divorce is 50-50.  Marriage has to be 100-100. It isn’t dividing everything in half, it’s giving it everything you’ve got.”  Anonymous

“Our first baby is due on Christmas Eve…” a work colleague was telling me, with excitement about what he called his entry into adulthood. I still remember my own rocky transition across this adulthood divide. As most any parent will attest,...