Good Clean Reads

“Remedial: giving or intended as a remedy or cure; intended to correct or improve something.”

 

I was married for at least fifteen years before I finally started seeing our sex life as remedial rather than a reward. Like so many couples, I spent over a decade holding sex apart from our daily conflicts and fruitlessly waiting for the moments when my husband said just the right thing at just the...

“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” -Robert Heinlein

Momentously. Fantastically. Stupendously… We are now all in it together. Hooray! Everyone can now be legally married- if only the right to marriage was sufficient for sustaining marital bliss. But alas, making a life together that works over time remains one of the elusive goals for our...

 “Only connect.”  -E. M. Forster

I grew up as part of the “Me Generation” and although I didn’t understand its implications at the time, in hindsight I sometimes wonder how our collective singular focus on our own needs and desires impacted the lifestyle and relationship choices which we currently find ourselves a part of. Was it the “Me Generation” that fostered the ease and frequency of...

My father has always been a quiet, introspective man. Though he says little, the things he says say a lot. His presence around the words he chooses to speak say even more. But my father is a lot more than just quiet and introspective. He's generous. He's kind. He's hardworking and he's curious about the world. His curiosity is one of the life lessons he has imparted to us, showing the value of continuous learning.

“…that a boy is, in large part, hard wired to be who he is.  We can’t change who he is.  We can teach him how to develop who he is with confidence, and toward a direction that contributes to our world.”   -Michael Gurian

Boys are different than girls and, fundamentally so, from the moment of conception. Beginning with earliest brain development, evolving into core function, what makes the male...

After we posted “Relaxing: The ‘Big Lebowski’ Approach,” we got an email from a man named Gary Silvia. He introduced himself as a Reverend in the Church of the Latter-Day Dude, and said he thought Making Love Sustainable readers might be interested in knowing more about Dudeism and its relaxed approach to living.

We agreed, and we emailed Reverend Silvia some questions asking more about Dudeism...

“Patience and persistence have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.  A little knowledge that acts is worth infinitely more than much knowledge that is idle.” -John Quincy Adams

Most of the time when we begin a project, we have no real idea of where it is going to take us or if we will ever truly get across the finish line that we set at the beginning. So it...

I get that it’s normal for guys to masturbate, but is it normal for him to be watching porn while he does it? Should I be worried? -Worried Wife

Dear Worried Wife,

I’m glad you realize that it’s normal for guys to masturbate, because it is. In fact, as a guy, I’d say that the one thing that unites us is the fact that we pretty much all masturbate. While the number of timesduring a day may differ...

Dear A,

My boyfriend masturbates all the time, even when we have sex regularly. Is that okay?

Signed,

Worried Girlfriend

 

Dear Worried,

Your boyfriend’s drive to masturbate frequently, added to the sex you’re having regularly, is actually a GOOD thing. A large-scale scientific studyjust recently released out of The National Cancer Institute followed 30,000 men for 8 years and discovered that when...