Good Clean Reads

I wasn’t exactly sure what to expect when I first stepped through the door of the charming Victorian house that the Investigator Academy would be held in for two weeks. Like many others, I had assumed that human trafficking consisted primarily of sex trafficking (a large part, but merely a part of) a much bigger, more disturbing picture. With 25 other citizens from all walks of life, I learned...

‘We always deceive ourselves twice about the people we love – first to their advantage, then to their disadvantage.’ Albert Camus

The percentage of people impacted by infidelity is between 30-60% of all married couples, depending on the study cited. More interesting than the differing rates of occurrence for men and women are the different patterns of infidelity for each gender.

Cheating men...

‘Betrayal can only happen if you love.’ -John Le Carre

If ever an expression defined human behavior, it is the notion that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Ovid, an ancient Roman philosopher and poet was perhaps the first when he said that ‘the harvest is always more fruitful in another man’s fields.’ This sense that life is better for others has perhaps its strongest and most...

Question:
My wife used to love sex, but we had a baby six months ago, and she has since lost all interest. Will her sex drive ever come back?

Answer:
The good news is that you can help her find her sexual interest. But don’t look in her diaper bag… it’s not there. It’s not unusual for a new mom to feel like her body and the focus of her attention belongs solely to the baby. Additionally, free time...

“Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.” Karl Menninger

I have been talking a lot about listening lately, hence, I have been wondering how to listen more and talk less. For any of you who know me, you know this as a life quest. Then as life would have it, I was presented with another chance to learn how. My...

“I felt it shelter to speak to you.” -Emily Dickinson

I am not sure if there is a more challenging aspect of relating than communicating. It is the currency of all relationships, personal and professional, and reflects us in the world more deeply than any other part of who we are. Professionally, it is not uncommon for less qualified applicants to get a job over more qualified competitors based...

I often tell people that the sexiest part of their body is their brain. Usually I am trying to get them to understand the connection between their olfactory system and the limbic part of the brain where memory, emotion and sexuality are...

“Masturbation is our first and natural form of sexual activity and if that’s inhibited or damaged, then we suffer for the rest of our lives.” -Betty Dodson

I had met Betty several times over the years while building my business. She is an icon among the sex therapist crowd, and even in much mainstream media her name and work over the last four decades is synonymous with the feminist sexual...

'Remember that the truth is in the details�Of course the devil's there, too-everyone says so-but maybe truth and the devil are words for the same thing. ' -Stephen KingI have never been a detail-oriented person. I have always preferred big picture thinking and have enjoyed relishing visions of possibility without really grasping the zillions of details that would take me there. My husband continues to remind me that it is...