by Wendy Strgar June 19, 2009
My wife used to love sex, but we had a baby six months ago, and she has since lost all interest. Will her sex drive ever come back?
The good news is that you can help her find her sexual interest. But don’t look in her diaper bag… it’s not there. It’s not unusual for a new mom to feel like her body and the focus of her attention belongs solely to the baby. Additionally, free time has diminished and she’s exhausted. If you want to seduce her, I recommend you help her with the household chores and the baby. Ask her what you can do to help while letting her know how much you miss making love to her.
Then, I suggest you hire a babysitter and get a room at a nice hotel where there are no signs of parenthood. While sexual drive after having a baby varies among women, it typically returns around six months. So, with patience, planning, and effort you’ll soon be having sex again…really.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018