by Wendy Strgar July 17, 2009
What to do…If medication and relationship issues are ruled-out, I recommend you try the below.
As we age, our sexual response changes. It’s not unusual to need more sexual stimulation to achieve erections and/or ejaculation. Try focusing more on pleasure than “performance”. After all, orgasm is what is reached at the peak of sexual arousal. So, make sure you are sufficiently aroused BEFORE you begin intercourse. In other words, spend more time in outercourse activities, such as kissing, manual and oral sex. Also, multiple stimulation can be an effective way to amp your arousal level. For example, kissing and/or having your wife touch multiple erogenous areas of your body (nipples, anus, balls) at the same time. Whether or not you ejaculate or have intercourse…your level of sexual pleasure is sure to increase.
Remember, sex does not always have to conclude with an orgasm. Change things up a bit, relax, and enjoy.
by Wendy Strgar October 25, 2018
“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” –Antoine de Saint-Exupery
We believe we are making it better by shielding ourselves from our own pain. This is a fool’s errand, for the pain we refuse to feel and acknowledge doesn’t dissipate from our lacking attention, but rather collects in our heart center with a weightiness that we often cannot name or discern. So fearful are we, of the potential of a broken heart, that we inadvertently refuse to open our hearts at all.
by Wendy Strgar September 13, 2018