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Ian Kerner is a New York Times best-selling author of numerous books including She Comes First, Passionista and The Big Fun Sexy Sex Book amongst others. To read more about Ian’s print books, please click here. Ian appears frequently on the TODAY Show and also writes a weekly sex column for CNN. Ian is certified as a sexuality counselor by AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators,...

I wrote this piece years ago, and it still feels like the truth to me.

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Here’s the thing to know about love. Sometimes it feels great, like a sunny day in the Northwest after 26 days of rain; but sometimes it feels like the early stages of flu- unsettled, achy, and a loss of appetite. Okay, well maybe not as bad as the flu, but love lives can be irritating, like an insect bite that keeps...

“When in doubt who will win, be neutral.” –Swiss Proverb

 

One of my husband’s most reliable responses to my often high level of emotionality is: “Can you just be neutral?” He is a psychiatrist, so he has a lot more practice at finding a neutral objective view. Yet, even before we each chose our respective professions, he would often find his way back to center with more ease than I. Over the...

Dr. Ian Kerner, certified as a sexuality counselor and a New York Times best-selling author, educates us on the arousal-desire connection

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It’s hard to believe, but this weekend the New York Timesconfirmed the news: More work time does not equal more productivity. In fact, taking regular naps, breaking up work time into shorter intervals and recharging your body and brain with real getaways is the long studied answer to increased productivity. This conclusion flies in the face of all of our beliefs about the hard work we have long...

Tapping into the power of sexual fantasies is a doorway to our deepest selves, where profound healing can be met with ecstatic play. Don’t miss this riveting conversation with Wendy Maltz, author and well know sexual healing therapist on how to understand your fantasies and listen for your deepest longings. She shows how this process of listening and honoring your own true erotic nature can serve...

Dr. Ian Kerner, internationally sex therapist, and author of “She Comes First” and “Sex Detox/Recharge”, joins us on The Opening Door. Visit us at http://www.theopeningdoor.org/ to listen to the interview.

Preliminary O Before Penetrationby Good Clean Love StaffFebruary 08, 20133 min readI have been with the same man for a couple of years and have always had some sensitivity with sex.  We always use lubricant but even with that product, it still hurts sometimes when he comes in me too soon. The only thing that I know for sure is that when I have an orgasm before penetration, (which sometimes takes some time) I don’t have pain and can sometimes even have another one inside.  Is this normal? Congratulations. You have hit upon one of the cardinal rules of female sexual pleasure, which is normal and yet remains relatively unknown.

“Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.” -William James

 

Most people would probably agree that if all they needed to remember about giving and receiving love, they learned in kindergarten, they might also add the caveat that most of what they need to forget is what they learned in high school. I have noticed in my dealings with...