The V-Word

“A final comfort that is small, but not cold:  The heart is the only broken instrument that works. “ ~T.E. Kalem

I wonder what is going through the mind of the man or woman as they fill out their Ashley Madison profile. What emotions dominate as one plans to cheat on one’s partner and betrays promises made? The spike in signups after holidays like Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day is probably a...

The most popular and first question that people ask about sex is “Am I normal?”  So begins this revelatory conversation with Debby Herbenick, PhD, one of the most respected and well known voices on human sexuality. As both a lead researcher and educator, her most recent book,  Great in Bedis a compendium of how to technique and unforgettable stories with co-author Grant Stoddard. Our conversation...

“You can have no greater or lesser dominion than the one over yourself. The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions.” -Leonardo DaVinci

Infidelity is a topic on just about everyone’s mind at some point in their relationship. Whether it lives as a quiet fear, a desperate fantasy or a shame-filled memory, the occurrence of infidelity is so frequent and widespread that it is one of...

Listen as Mark Gungorshares his candid and comedic approach to bringing more laughter and purpose to intimate relationships. Using the church as a base for marriage education, Mark dispels the myths of both the overly romantic or overly spiritual ideas that prevent people from doing the committed work of loving and caring for one another. This conversation will wake you up to the power and...

“Courage is not simply one of the virtues- it is the form of every virtue at the testing point.”  -C.S. Lewis

I can’t get the Stanford kicker, Jordan Williamson, out of my heart. Watching him struggle to maintain his composure with the game on the line, not once but twice and each time coming up short was for me the most heartbreaking moment of the game. He missed only two kicks in the whole...

“When you feel that you have reached the end and that you cannot go one step further, when life seems to be drained of all purpose; what a wonderful opportunity to start all over again, to turn over a new page.”   -Eileen Caddy

These days I am starting over. All of the good habits that I could count on with ease are now feeling foreign. I am addicted to sugar in a way that I can’t remember. My...

Recently I have been having crazy sexual fantasies while making love with my partner. I don’t know if I should feel guilty or excited because when I just let them go, I get way more aroused and I can tell my partner is feeling it too. I can’t get myself to tell my partner and I wonder if this is some form of cheating on him. I am not always thinking of someone else, just other crazy scenarios....

“What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.” – T. S. Eliot

I sometimes wonder if the reason I have for so long embraced the motto “You never fail until you quit” is because I am so unskilled at endings. I feel like the tire that is stuck spinning in a muddy rut when it is time to move on. I have the will, the engine...