Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“Penetration has a spice of divination in it, which tickles our vanity more than any other quality of the mind.” –Francois de la Rochefoucauld

Penetration is a word that is often used to describe the culminating act of sexuality. It’s a word I often use when describing the best use of good lubricant. But recently, after using the word in conjunction with the act, I began to wonder what I was...

Honey bees are messengers of love. The Honey bee hive is a super-organism, living in harmony with 50,000 other bees in a single hive. They are the pollinators for some 70% of the world’s food, transforming the essence of plant life into honey and other healing and nutrient rich products. Man has lived peaceably with honeybees for thousands of years until recently, when scientists began studying...

“The way to know life is to love many things.” – Vincent Van Gogh

It is safe to say that Valentines Day is a loaded gun. For as many people truly get to celebrate the love they share with their intimate relations, there are at least as many who struggle with feeling unloved and, worse still, unlovable. Our collective sense of being unlovable might well be the single most toxic belief our culture...

“For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”  -Rilke

Imagine if we began our relationships with the vow, “I take you as my burden, to have and to hold from this day forward.” Call me jaded, but I think if people understood that committing to love someone over...

“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” -George Bernard Shaw

Most of us take ourselves way too seriously, especially when it comes to our relationships. The more our heart is bared and the deeper we grow in our commitments, the more we have riding on the outcome. Ironically, instead of helping us to lighten up, our most intimate relationships often push...

Learn to make sense of the pain and insecurity that plagues our most intimate relationships with Dr. Stan Tatkin, author of Wired for Love. His reassuring voice resonates with deep wisdom about how to grow the skill base that can turn your relationship into the safe, engaging and healing journey that it was meant to be. Stan’s knowledge is grounded in the latest brain science and extensive...

“The mind is everything. What you think you become.”  -Buddha

It was about five months ago that I sat behind a table at our local high school recruiting kids to join the new Positive Charge club. Our mission was to design and landscape an interior courtyard at the school as a memorial to a pair of students who were lost in a tragic accident last year. These two boys were full of life and vibrant...

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.  The mind is everything. What we think we become.”  -Buddha

There is no more powerful or challenging change we can make in our lives than looking at how we think. The human mind generates hundreds of thousands of thoughts every day and, for most people, the majority of them are negative. Negative thought patterns are so repetitive and...

The United States is one of two countries in the world that allows pharmaceutical companies to advertise directly to consumers. This fact might well explain why the total US population, which represents only 5% of the total, consumes over 42% of all of the pharmaceutical drugs sold globally. It also provides a deep insight into how more and more normal human issues become “treatable” health...