The V-Word

“Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell.” -Edna St. Vincent Millay

Three years ago today it was a Wednesday afternoon when a beautiful girl named Sydney went into a closet and ended her life with her father’s gun. It was a particularly humiliating high school break up that...

“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.” -Elizabeth Barrett Browning

We are not a happy sexual bunch. According to a recent CNN poll nearly 40 million Americans are stuck in a sexual rut, and more than 52% of us are...

Known as America’s sex therapist, Ian Kerner offers some of the sagest advice you will ever hear in this not to be missed conversation about how sexual pleasure heals our life. Ian’s is a clear voice of sexual sanity clarifies everything from the power of enhanced foreplay and oral sex to the mystery and complexity of opening to your sexual fantasies. If you are like millions of others who are...

“Be willing to be a beginner every single morning.” – Meister Eckhart

I have never enjoyed the introductory class to anything. You know the class when they spend half the time telling you the rules and rather than doing whatever you are there to learn, the teacher goes on at length about what will be learned? While I understand that the beginning of a class sets the tone for what follows, it also...

Vaginal atrophy is a topic we often get calls about at Good Clean Love. I remember the first time someone called with a question about this condition that I didn’t yet know had a name, or worse still, was a syndrome that remarkably impacts at least 50% of post- menopausal women. It’s prevalence is hard to track as is the impact it has on couple’s lives, because most women won’t discuss it, even...

“The future depends on what we do in the present.” ~ Gandhi

As I begin my third year of positivity quest, I am overcome with the success and changes that the discipline and practice of creating a positive relationship to life each and every day has harvested. I am getting more confident with my positivity and just like many of the books I have read suggested, I am witnessing how I am able to...

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” -Helen Keller

When we end our relationships badly, we get stuck in a continuous rebound relationship cycle. Tragically, the most common and destructive bad endings that plague millions of relationships is when we use infidelity as an exit...

“For a successful technology, reality must take precedence over public relations, for Nature cannot be fooled. “ ~Richard P. Feynman

Not too long ago, my son got his first iPhone 4s and called me overjoyed. He exclaimed “my life is complete.” In my motherly way, I tried to explain that a phone doesn’t complete you, it is just a cool phone. Clearly I missed the point and I was in the process of...

Becoming curious is one of the most expedient mind tools we have  to creating a positive life and healthy relationships.  Curiosity is the often untapped exploration dial in our brain which balances our tendency toward anxiety and opens the gate to more connected and fulfilling relationships.   Don’t miss Todd Kashdan, author of Curious? Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Lifeenlighte...