Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

Join Dr. David Schnarch, world-renown sex and marital therapist, and international best-selling author of Passionate Marriage, Resurrecting Sex and most recently Intimacy and Desire explore the crossroads of healthy sexuality and the maturation of our humanity. Dr. Schnarch’s brilliant understanding of the core issues behind the majority of sexual problems that most couples face and his...

“There are no gains without pains.” -Adlai Stevenson

One of the reasons that people give up on their goals and dreams is because it is hard work to stay with them and the rewards of our commitments are often not immediate. Whether your goal is improving your physical condition, increasing your mental capacity or re-orienting the direction of your life, the work to get there is challenging and...

“Keep on beginning and failing. Each time you fail, start all over again, and you will grow stronger until you have accomplished a purpose – not the one you began with perhaps, but one you’ll be glad to remember.” -Anne Sullivan

One of the most difficult passages in life is moving through the times when we try with all our might and fail anyway. It can turn your heart into a rock and make you not...

“…Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.”

Robert Frost

I read a story about a musician who lost her direction in her music, listening to other people tell her how to make a hit. It is easy to get sidetracked when we are on our way to building a career. We start without really knowing the business, but with a clear sense of...

“I am convinced that there are times in everybody’s experience when there is so much to be done, that the only way to do it is to sit down and do nothing.” -Fanny Fern

I have long been an overachieving multi-tasker. My addiction to how much I could get done in an hour or a day both charged me and depleted me. There was some perverse adrenaline rush that came with getting so much done. Rest was not...

“Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another.”  -Madonna

It occurred to me the last time that I was in the throes of passion, when I have some of my best thoughts, that so much about our sexual experience is connected to our ability to give ourselves permission to explore the far reaches of arousal. The permission that I am referring to is not really the cerebral ‘thinking...

“The human race has only one really effective weapon and that is laughter.” -Mark Twain

A deep long laugh is therapy for the heart, mind and soul. Most people would agree that sharing deep long laughter with others is as intimate an experience as crying. In fact, the emotions are not opposites as we sometimes think; they live close beside each other, which is why the best laughter brings us to...

“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think” – Socrates

Tonight was easily the 40^thopen school night I have attended in my decades of raising children. I go now to send a message to my children about being involved in their world more than having a meaningful conversation about what they are learning. Early on, I expected some deep understanding of the learning process, their...

“Problems are only opportunities in work clothes.” -Henri Kaiser

Life is a problem solving opportunity. This is the premise that provides the inspiration to approach almost any activity with the open-minded, curious, out-of-the-box thinking that allows something better to come out of almost any situation. When one door closes, another always opens is nature’s correction and mechanism of balance....