Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” -George Bernard Shaw

I feel like I am surfacing out of the deep haze that has been totally focused on the healing of my son, who came a bit too close to the edge of life and death. He has emerged miraculously unscathed, hopefully more cautious and awake, but incredibly himself. During these moments, my life is an anchor for him...

Discover how The Scent of Desire with author Dr. Rachel Herz, a leading world expert on the psychology of olfaction. The connections between our sense of smell, our sexuality, emotions and memory is deep and primal. Listen to one of the world’s foremost authorities explain the in-depth connections that have hardwired our species and our relationships. This is a conversation that will make you...

“This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.” -Dalai Lama

It isn’t only in the midst of family emergencies that the kindness of others makes such a big difference in life. This is often the time we think of going out of our way for someone else, where we offer, “Anything I can...

“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” -Unknown

I am exhausted.  I am working hard not to let fatigue pull me down the slippery slope of negativity.  I am deliberately turning my attention to gratitude every time I feel the tug of anger or overwhelm in the healing journey my son’s life has become.  He has made great strides and I have been honored to bear witness to his process.

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“Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion.” — Buddha

Healing is best accomplished when we think of it as a journey and not a destination. My son, who has become more and more lucid with time, is overcome with the enormity of the accident he suffered. The fear associated with the trauma is too big for him to hold onto and threatens to swallow him whole. These are...

“There is no order of difficulty of miracles, they are all the same. All miracles are an expression of love.” -Course in Miracles

There are moments that demonstrate with crystal clarity that we are all hanging by a thread and that actually the fabric of our lives can unravel with just that- single thread in an instant. Last night as I watched my son being taken away in an ambulance, tied to a...

“Good sex isn’t about just elevating your heart rate — it’s about elevating your heart.” -David Schnarch

The crossroads between our genitals and our neurology turns out to be a super highway. One of the most powerful transformers in the new science of brain re-wiring occurs during deep intimate connection. As some of the mystery of sexual intimacy is revealed through the emerging science of...

Today I had the pleasure of being reminded of the three most important qualities on my journey to a positive, constructive life. More importantly I realized again that there is no there that I am getting to. Arriving is right here and now, this is as good as it gets if we are willing to accept life as it is and to go with the changes as they present themselves.

Paulo Coelho summarized the truth of...

“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” -Winston Churchill

This morning I was invited to attend the annual meeting of our local chapter of the Big Brothers and Sisters/ committed partners for youth groups. There were over 500 people there supporting the mentoring projects that for some kids make a life/death difference in their lives. The family life you are born into is...