Good Clean Reads

Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!

“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” -Albert Ellis

Henry Ford was right when he said, “There are no big problems, there are just a lot of little problems.” Some days, or even weeks, they just stack up; one little problem on...

“Within you there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself.” -Hermann Hesse

I had never given much thought to the care and attention of my central nervous system until recently. Like most of us, I just assumed that it was one of the systems in the body that automatically reset and essentially managed itself. I didn’t link the behaviors like the...

Listen this week to author of “Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction” and sex educator, Debby Herbenick, Phd, answer your questions about sexual health and unlock the mysteries of sexual pleasure. Her intelligent, thoughtful and down to earth responses have made the Kinsey website the place to go for the authoritative answers we are all searching for. Don’t...

“Faith… is the art of holding on to things your reason once accepted, despite your changing moods.” C.S. Lewis

Our brief hint of spring ended today, although the fruit trees were all coaxed into flower. The weather turned cold, grey and wet. My thirteen-year-old son said on the way to school, “I definitely have that SAD disorder.” I said, “We all do.” Amazing what a few sunny days will do for...

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. ~Plato

There is something about a natural disaster that brings out the best in all of us. Several years ago while living in eastern Washington, the area was hit with over three feet of snow within days. The recent snow storms on the east coast brought back the memories of both the wonder and terror of human existence at the mercy of...

“The best portion of a good man’s life – his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.“ ~William Wordsworth

When I think of kindness, I remember when my first child was diagnosed with a range of developmental delays and the children and parents that I met in the years that she attended preschool for special needs children. Special needs kids make up in heart what they lack in...

“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours” -Swedish Proverb

1. Positivity Builds Psychological Strengths

Our psychological strengths are, in effect, our mental habits. Our strengths reflect how we think about ourselves, our relationships and our life experiences. Opening up, becoming resilient and...

‘At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.’ -Albert Schweitzer

I have been studying gratitude lately. In keeping my first gratitude journal, I have learned that paying attention and recording the gifts of life actually fills you up more quickly than you can fill...

“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” George Bernard Shaw

It is hard to believe that I have arrived at day 50 of my positivity quest. Here is the progress report as I see it.

Slowly my mind is changing. I am almost entirely aware of my emotional state now and cognizant of the attitude choices I am making usually within...