What Kind of Lube Should I Use?
Lubrication is one of the simplest and most effective ways to make intimacy more enjoyable. And even though our bodies naturally produce lubrication, it isn’t always enough. Hormonal changes, stress, medication, or simply wanting a little more glide are all good reasons to reach for lube!
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3 Gifts of Presence for the Holidays
I believe the most generous thing we can offer anyone is our undivided attention. With the holiday season upon us, it is a great time to reconsider what matters most in our gift-giving rituals. Let's dig into three simple ways to bring your full presence to those you love.
Healing Sexual Harassment with Education
“Education is not preparation for life; education is life itself.” –John Dewey
Understanding what it means to have a sexually healthy life is a question that most people face throughout their life and relationship cycles, and for good reason. Human sexuality is among the most powerful and mysterious aspects of our personality. Without learning a basic vocabulary to describe what motivates and...
Taking Sex Out of the Darkness
“Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity.” – Hippocrates
I spent five years writing a book about how to make sex work in your life, but pretty much since its publication, almost all of the conversations I have are about the sex that permeates our lives that doesn’twork. The unfolding revelations about rampant sexual abuses began with the brave and bold and...
Gratitude Embodied
“The roots of all goodness lie in the soil of appreciation for goodness.” – Dalai Lama
I once had a friend who for many years taught me volumes about gratitude, while also teaching me quite a bit about my own capacity for envy. At first glance, it may have been her inherited wealthy lifestyle or seemingly effortless marriage, or her devoted relationships with her loving mother and sister… There...
40 Years Later is Still Yesterday
“Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes.” Maggie Kuhn
What remains unsaid in us remains alive. It is the trauma that we cannot acknowledge that burrows deeper inward, sapping our ability to trust ourselves as well as our capacity to connect to others. And among the traumas we experience, sexual abuses are one of the most potent in the ways that it imprints on our memory. This is why Beverly...
Zero Tolerance for Sexual Health
“I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.” Evelyn Beatrice Hall
Last night I had a book reading for Sex that Works. It was a small gathering as it is really hard to get people out of their cozy homes on a rainy Sundayevening. But inviting people who know me through social media isn’t an option to get the word out either – Facebook’s Zero Tolerance policy...