The V-Word

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.” -Alan Watts

I can’t get this film out of my head. Watching it at 35,000 feet with the melting ice caps continually under my windows view has cemented this new altered reality into my head. Before the Flood, the new release by Leonardo DiCaprio in cooperation with National Geographic should be the...

Didn’t have the Valentine’s Day you hoped for? Here’s 3 Rules for not making it worse.

Post Valentine’s Day can sometimes be a rocky relational transition. When we don’t feel seen or appreciated in the ways we hoped for, it is easy to slip into behaviors that silently undermine all the heartfelt efforts that we have worked at for so long. So here are a few practices that have helped me time and...

There are more breakups associated with Valentine’s Day than any other holiday – mostly because all of our perceived slights and disappointments that happen every day are on full display on that day.

"The way you make love is the way God will be with you. " RumiOne of the great mysteries in life is the way in which our sexual encounters, especially the most memorable and passionate ones, live outside of normal space and time. It's almost as if time stands still and bends itself around the encounter. Minutes that fly by in a moment seem to last hours and hours. It is in fact this space that we create outside of ordinary reality that makes ordinary sex extraordinary.

“More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity.” -Francois Gautier

While we all want pleasure, most of us don’t understand why our pleasure response gets blocked or even how to ignite it. So here are four steps to turn on your libido, enlarge your experience of sex and trust the intelligence of your heart.

1. Start with an Empty Mind

If you can’t clear your mind when you are...

When it comes to sex, our society has two narratives for young women. It begins with the basics: contraceptives and consent. This is the core of sexual education in our country and often where the conversation stops, leaving a lot unsaid. What fills this gap? The second narrative on sexuality is a cultural dialogue...

“The pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.”
- Wilhelm Reich

Some of my most vivid memories of my early sex life are not of the satisfying post coitus elated release, but of their opposite. It is hard to forget the many times when sex was more a path of frustration than pleasure; when I was still figuring...

“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities; in the expert’s mind there are few.” Shunryu Suzuki.

There is a concept I learned while my kids were in Montessori educationcalled scaffolding—a technique that is reflected in the goals of learn it, do it and then teach it. In this way, the student comes back to the same material in a natural spiral, each time the student is able to add to...

“What is without periods of rest will not endure.”   Ovid

Rest and recuperation is the only thing on my Christmas list this year. In the two weeks since my surgery I have worked a ridiculous number of days, insisting on getting things done instead of getting quiet. It has taken a toll. Starting today I am giving myself the gift of rest, which is not the opposite of effort, but rather its source.

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