by Wendy Strgar January 10, 2010
Now that I have managed to really listen to the words I am saying, the next logical step is to listen one step back to the thoughts. Not saying the negative thing is an improvement, not a small task, but getting to the thoughts is really the foundation of the change. I still have a lot of negative thoughts that I am not saying, yet surprisingly I am also having more room for positive thoughts.
My eldest son was born eighteen years ago tomorrow. He and I are more challengingly similar that the differences between us might seem, at first glance. We have worked diligently to live together. In these last teen years, our conflicts have been dramatic at points and have impacted the other relationships in the family. Since I began the Quest 10 days ago, I have been forced to see how much negativity I associate to my relating with him. I realized too, that as he prepares to graduate from high school, I want to make a fresh start with him. I want to release him from all the things that I have imagined I have known about him since he was tiny and let him surprise me with who he becomes.
We all want a fresh start in life. We want other people, especially the ones who love and know us to see what is best in us. We want to be able to do that for the people we know and love. This feeling that is a cousin to, if not a brother, of forgiveness is what the eastern mystics think of as letting people be as they are. It is a fresh place where judgment does not filter our vision entirely and we can see people clearly.
Relating is an action verb that requires agility, flexibility and creativity. The daily practice can enhance or diminish the feeling of positivity in your life. Choose your intent and then work to achieve it. You will be surprised how available a fresh start is- it can even be daily.
by Wendy Strgar March 21, 2019
Usually by the time we “spring forward,” most of us have long forgotten our New Year’s resolutions and not because we don’t want to change, but because the big sweeping ones we plan for after our third glass of champagne are so hard to get our hands around in the day to day. While the desire for change is earnest, what most of us miss is that real change is found in the small steps that we do consistently.
by Wendy Strgar February 21, 2019
Our sense of smell is ancient and the source of our most powerful emotional memories. It is also the primal sensory pathway to sexual attraction. And yet, we often give little attention to all that our sense of smell can evoke, in part because we have so little vocabulary for scent. Often we're limited to “it smells like…” and delineated only between pleasant and unpleasant.