by Wendy Strgar November 16, 2010
After reading the New York times style section cover story about the urgency shared by millions to get onto the Oprah show and the industry building around it, I thought to myself, “As much as I would love to chat with Oprah, I don’t want to be on that waiting list.” I also thought about the amazing number of people who are so full of talent, passion, ambition that are like me waiting for someone to notice it. I wonder what the world would be like if all of the incredible ideas that people are percolating actually were showcased all around us.
Ever since I started wandering the country spreading the love through my organic love products, and getting into the meaningful conversations about what has to happen in a relationship to really benefit from them, people have asked – over and over “When are you going to be on Oprah?” I would reply, “Yes me and the other million people who are longing to share their story with the world.” I have averted my eyes and tried to stay focused on the work.
I got a preliminary interview with Laura Berman, but didn’t make the cut to the Oprah radio network. So, like millions of others who will never be on the Oprah show or even on her radio network, the million dollar question is how to be satisfied with seeing oneself. The more I focus on enlarging “my platform” and my reach, the less I can feel the love that I so long to share. I think that irony continues even into stardom and fame. Just looking at the parade of failed relationships that is covered in the tabloids every month; it doesn’t seem all that compatible, platforms of recognition and love.
For me at least, it is easy to see that searching for one is not inspiring the other. Instead, I want to hear and hold onto the advice of a dear friend who suggested that I use the force that I have pushed so hard on in the world inside. Witness myself with love and see how much of that it takes to fill me up. From that full place, I may just find the place to speak where someone has been waiting to listen.
So here it is, campaign for recognition and promotion is suspended until further notice. Letting go of the past platform starts here and now. Holding still until I know which way to go and seeking moments of being underwhelmed with life so that what is right in front of me is visible. Bertrand Russell wisely said, “The world is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper.” This is how I want to gather momentum; by being awake enough to see the magic around me.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018
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