by Wendy Strgar February 04, 2010
Today was one of those sweet days when things seemed to be coming together. Projects that have long been buried in piles of loose ends and weighty with the challenge of conflicting deadlines miraculously fell into place. My Good Clean Love product business is an exercise in juggling small details and prayers that they will all come together in thousands of beautiful products I will then try to sell until it is time to begin again.
The process of making and reinventing our products isn’t new, and although I have been through the cycles so many times before, each round brings the same questions of financing and improvement issues that has in the past made my work feel more like stress and less like love. Also, it hasn’t helped me sleep much. This time, I am on my positivity quest and what has been most different has been my ability to relinquish the idea that I have any real control over the whole.
Instead, I humbly pay attention to the details, one by one; giving each decision my best intent and letting the people I trust to help me actually do what they do. There really is a timing, order and perfection in life if you have the guts to get out of your own way. It is enough to tend to the small details and celebrate them as successes. They will, by themselves, create a bigger picture than even the one I have tried to hold together for so long. I am learning the capacity for delight in the gift of paying attention and letting go.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018