by Wendy Strgar December 21, 2010
“For each new morning with its light,
For rest and shelter of the night,
For health and food, for love and friends,
For everything Thy goodness sends.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
The lunar eclipse taking place tonight on the solstice beginning will not be witnessed again until sometime in the 2400s. Celebrating the incoming light and the wonder of living on earth in these remarkable life changing times feels like a recognition. It is celebration that is as planetary as it is personal. Giving thanks is an act of receiving. It is the whole body embrace of the goodness that makes the smallest events of life simultaneously simple and spectacular.
An ancient French proverb says, “Gratitude is the memory of the heart.” Tonight I am hosting one of my oldest friends who was my doula when my now 12-year-old was born. Now she visits with her little boys and I tease her about her dedication to nap schedules. She doesn’t remember how much she used to tease me. Time and love and growing up are the main course in life. Bearing witness and sharing ourselves ingrain life events deeply in our hearts. It is how we remember ourselves to love.
I created a candle light ritual tonight on the back porch to welcome in the longer light of the new days coming and to acknowledge the vast light that lives in, around and through me. I sang some old hymns that I used to put the kids to sleep with like Kumbaya with my daughter. Our voices were so clear in the night air. G.K. Chesterton said: “If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, “thank you,” that would suffice. I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.”
I want to know more about the feeling of gratitude, to be able to recognize it when it is near. Better still, I want to learn to cultivate the sensations and appreciate them like the golden space of life that it is.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018