“Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you’re a part of them.”  -Anonymous

It is scientifically proven that a good sex life contributes to your wellness in every area in your life. Satisfaction or even working towards satisfaction in the sexual arena of life contributes to reduced anxiety, fear and pain both physically and emotionally. All kinds of diseases occur less frequently including heart disease and different types of cancers. Essential physiological functioning like your immune system is heightened and improved.

I am a walking testimonial to the fact that a dynamic and vital sexuality between partners is the glue that adheres us, even in the most challenging aspects of relating. Discovering sexual compatibility with your partner and honoring that place with consistency and commitment should be on every couple’s top ten list. There is really no more direct route to re-establishing your intimate connection than through the body, where thought and words are second to the power and clarity of touch.

We lose sight of how much we need to be touched and how deeply we register our sexuality in our bodies.  Humans, like all other mammals are animals driven by the drive to reproduce, but unlike most animals, our sexual drives are  linked to elaborate courtship rituals and often tied to long-term relating. There are few species that are as uniquely capable and motivated to entwine our procreative urges with our fantasy and aspiration in our capacity to love.

As we age together, my husband and I are both focused on our fitness levels at least in part because maintaining physical strength is such a boon for sex fitness. I can’t name a single other activity that resets my internal emotional, physical and relational capacity the way that  passionate pleasure does.

Forgo the shopping- give yourself instead.

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