by Wendy Strgar January 09, 2010
This year we prepare for Valentine’s Day with the aspiration of Love for All. The world is demanding that we wake up and realize that the most important thing we have to discover in ourselves is our capacity to love. Sometimes the most challenging work we undertake is following through with our promises to love, other times the most pleasurable and rewarding moments of our lives occurs in the arms of our beloved. Learning to embrace them both with the same open heart is an act of boldness and courage.
The ability to love begins with loving acceptance of our selves. The Buddha once said, “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserves your love and affection.” Take this to heart from one of the greatest teachers of all time. Even in small increments � feel your own love and be prepared for the magnetic magic it creates around you.
If you are fortunate to love someone else, use this time to relish the gifts that the relationship brings to your life. In addition to any gifts you might purchase, take the time to write a list of all the qualities your loved one brings to your life. Receiving this kind of recognition will not only be a gift not quickly forgotten by your partner, but the act of writing out the list by hand will make the positive qualities in your life bigger and more real for both of you. This is a simple but deeply effective way to love and honor your relationship.
Celebrate intimacy by taking the time to create a candle-lit physical conversation. Agree to use all your senses but speaking to discover the alchemical mystery of physical love. Pull out all the stops�Change the sheets, rub each other with sweet smelling oils and feel the transformative gift of human touch soften the tension in your muscles as well as some of the hard edges that live between you. Breathe together and feel the weight of arms holding you, the warmth of bodies touching.
Don’t wait until Valentine’s Day to experiment with waking up the arousal mechanism. Be bold and allow desire to course through you and wonder at the chemistry that exists; so often out of sight, but usually close enough that it can surprise with both its sudden availability and intensity. The power of sharing sexual arousal and climax is unparalleled in this life. It heals our physical body, our emotional connections and transforms our deep sense of connectedness to both our loved one and life itself.
Vincent Van Gogh once said, ‘I tell you, the more I think, the more I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people.’ Through his paintings and his bold acts of love, his work was a testimony to the love that inspired him and brought him to the edge of his world. How desperate was his love at the moment he cut off his own ear. We all share a little bit of that larger than life desperation about having a fulfilled love life.
There is nothing more satisfying in life than feeling loved, nothing that makes us more courageous, more generous, more fully alive or able to express our deepest selves. Please celebrate your love with us and use the coupons to enjoy everything we have to offer.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018
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