by Wendy Strgar May 23, 2014
The most effective mind-shifting, gratitude-awakening thought I have is when I ask myself to seriously consider how many more times I will have to do the thing right in front of me. I remember reading this thought somewhere where the author realistically assessed just how many more nights like this one would you see a sunset that makes your jaw drop? I can’t remember how many nights I watched my kids splashing in the tub and didn’t take the time to share the sheer joy of their playfulness. I couldn’t imagine then, that those days would disappear as they have already.
Last night, when I got home tired and was facing the preparation of dinner, I used this thinking to wake myself up to the gift of making dinner for my family. Truthfully there aren’t that many days left of sitting down with my kids together at the end of the day. Once you stop taking the time for granted and dive into the task as though it might be the last time you get to do it, everything else about it changes.
The food itself, the colors of yellow pepper, the taste of fresh-cut tomatoes, the smell of cooking fish in butter all feel like something I never really saw before.
This mental gymnastics turns stressful situations on their head, too. On my way to my office, I remembered this idea again and wondered to myself, how many more days will I get to work this Good Clean Love thing, I stopped feeling stressed and started feeling lucky that I get to do it at all. Bringing ourselves to the recognition of how brief the interludes of our life really are is the best wake-up call I know to love our life and the people in it better and more.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018
by Wendy Strgar April 26, 2018