by Wendy Strgar January 01, 2010
Mastering the Art, Studying the Science and Discovering the Practice of Positivity, One day at a time…
This is probably the biggest new years resolution that I have ever undertaken but may also be the single most important commitment I have ever made in my life. I have been studying, reading and occasionally writing about the science of positive psychology for some time now. The data is pretty clear: the ratio of positive to negative events in any persons life is 3 to 1 if you have any hopes at all of thriving in life and love.
I have done enough practice to know that the data is true. That if you can remain open, curious and lean towards wonder, surprise, gratitude and occasional moments of awe, the way you see your life changes the life itself. My problem is that my neuro-circuitry has built in wiring of its own which tends to highlight what is wrong in any given situation and actually causes me to forget how grateful I might be at any given moment.
It was actually the new movie, Julie and Julia that inspired me on this positivity quest. If you haven’t seen it, a young woman follows in the footsteps of Julia Child, preparing every one of her recipes and blogging about the experience- both good and bad during the course of a year. Although I don’t share her devotion to the wonders of French cuisine, I believe her method of keeping a daily log about my pursuit of a positive mind might just be the vehicle to truly changing it and learning to live happily.
The daily PQ will be a window in to the successes and failures of the process and I dare say will show more of my strengths and frailties than I generally feel free to share.. Where the quotes and perspective of those who have gone before are helpful, we will celebrate them. Where they are Pollyanna and push me into the depths of despair, you will hear about it. Hopefully the journey will inspire you on a parallel hike and that the interactive power of our community will build into such a crescendo that we will all be reaping the benefits of living and loving well.
So here is the invitation you have been waiting for- to decide to make life a positive and happy adventure. Stay in touch.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018