by Wendy Strgar November 15, 2013
I have never believed in waiting for the right time. Maybe it is my comfort with chaos or the fact that I have never encountered a moment when everything is how I thought it would be, but mostly I think its because I have seen too many people not go for what they wanted because they were waiting for the right time to do it. So on this note, I was just informed that my turn has come up on a waiting list for a puppy.
I have had several puppies and four babies in my adult life, so it is not blindly that I am walking into this significant commitment. I know how much attention a puppy needs to settle into the great dog you want for a decade. My last puppy is near the end of her life and I want our new dog to be showered in her goodness, so the time has come. Besides that babies of all kinds make life slow down, which is a good thing, even and especially when you are most busy.
So our new puppy was born this past week. I have been on a waiting list for quite a while and just got a note that the newborn litter had 2 more surprise puppies –that they didn’t see in the ultra sound. The idea of the puppy flipped between excited anticipation to anxious rumination about how to fit in another project. Then when I was talking to my husband tonight about adding this new baby to our soon-to-be empty nest and going on about what to call this new puppy and how there will never be a right time… I babbled on with names like Chai, as our current beautiful Ridgeback is named Coco. Then I thought of Simba, one of our kids’ all-time favorite Disney characters.
Just then as I was dipping the tongs of a fork into our honey, produced by our own beehives, which is so exquisite, that it tastes like medicine of the gods, he suggested “honey” as her name. And I relaxed, feeling elated that he knew her name before I did. Somewhere in Southern Oregon is a tiny one week old Ridgeback puppy named Honey waiting to be loved for life.
by Wendy Strgar May 22, 2018
There is no time like long summer nights to cultivate our uniquely, profoundly human capacity for pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. Our pleasure response transforms our relationship to each other and even to life itself. Focusing on pleasure not only changes how we see our opportunities for intimate connection, but also invites us into a deeper relationship with our erotic soul.
by Wendy Strgar May 17, 2018
It becomes hard to trust your own thinking when nothing seems to be working. The space between how I thought it would go and how it is going seems to widen in front of my eyes. Maybe most difficult of all is how often the undesirable outcomes around us spill over into our relationships, both at home and at work. An errant comment too easily turns into an argument. I become blind to my impact on people around me, caught up in the unresolved problems surrounding me. During times like these, we often underestimate the power of the choices we make and how it can create a path back towards what’s working or down the slippery slope of self-destruction, which my husband affectionately calls “flirting with the gutter.”
Here is my short list to making it better when it isn’t working at all. Each one helps you do the next one, so start at the beginning and work your way down.
by Wendy Strgar May 03, 2018