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I get that it’s normal for guys to masturbate, but is it normal for him to be watching porn while he does it? Should I be worried? -Worried Wife

Dear Worried Wife,

I’m glad you realize that it’s normal for guys to masturbate, because it is. In fact, as a guy, I’d say that the one thing that unites us is the fact that we pretty much all masturbate. While the number of timesduring a day may differ...

Dear A,

My boyfriend masturbates all the time, even when we have sex regularly. Is that okay?

Signed,

Worried Girlfriend

 

Dear Worried,

Your boyfriend’s drive to masturbate frequently, added to the sex you’re having regularly, is actually a GOOD thing. A large-scale scientific studyjust recently released out of The National Cancer Institute followed 30,000 men for 8 years and discovered that when...

“How did it get so late so soon? It’s night before its afternoon. December is here before its June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon?”  -Dr Seuss

The one thing that makes everything else real is our time. In fact, what we do with our time is our life. Time is the only resource, which we are allotted in equal measure, and often the one we squander mindlessly. We...

Crossing the Line“Everything becomes a little different when spoken aloud. ” –Hermann HesseI have long been accused of crossing the line in a relationship; in fact, I have lost more than one relationship to my tendency of overstepping a comfort zone- asking questions they didn’t want to answer or looking more deeply into their lives than they wanted to show. For me, this is where the heart of life lies. I have little interest in the superficial and I believe the real answers to what motivates us lives in how we feel and perceive, not what we think. We...

“The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it…” -Nicholas Sparks

This month’s theme, focused on healing heartbreak, is deeply personal and yet, also profoundly universal. In this life dominated by relationships of all kinds- personal, familial, and professional, no matter where you fall in your level of engagement and vulnerability, no one gets out unscathed. I...

“The secret to happiness is freedom… And the secret to freedom is courage.” -Thucydides

 

Fear is the driver for many people’s sexual and erotic lives. One of Freud’s students, Otto Rank, was quoted as saying, “People vacillate between the fear of living and the fear of dying.” In some ways, our fears about our sexuality encompass both. We are equally terrified of what might happen if we gave into...

This year, we’re excited to be a part of August McLaughlin’s Beauty of a Woman BlogFest 2015. Not only does this online event celebrate collective female beauty and sexuality, but readers of this blog are also invited to go forth to read, learn and discuss. Not to mention- you’re eligible for prizes! Check it out!

 

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Sex has become the gateway meeting in modern dating. Driven by phone apps and new social conventions of myriad hook ups as a way to “get to know someone,” sex- the deepest intimate connection we have to offer to another human being has been turned on its head and is now shared among much of the millennial generation with little more regard than a meeting for a drink. Sometimes, it starts with meeting for a drink- but by and large the idea of reserving the revelation of our sexual selves for the safe confines of an intimate relationship is passé.

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”  -Gandhi

I learned something important the other day as I was on my way home from a week away making sales visits across the frozen plains of the East Coast. It had been a challenging trip of flying and driving, driving and flying, staying in hotels and eating alone. I was sad and lonely. I was questioning the very...