The V-Word

by Wendy Strgar

“I think art’s biggest potential is in its ability to produce ideas beyond the ideas contained within it, or the intended ideas, etc. A good curator can harness and direct those types of discursive potentials.”   -Matt Sheridan Smith

I have never been asked to be a curator before, but I like the idea that one who curates actually does the work of making a greater meaning out of...

“The cruelest lies are often told in silence.” — Robert Louis Stevenson

 

There is no bigger paradigm shift that a relationship experiences than in the aftermath of disclosing or discovering an affair. The betrayal cuts deep and shreds not only the trust between the couple, but often the ability to trust one’s own judgment and the agreements that we believed defined our lives. Less than a third...

I never thought I would be the recipient of a letter that informed me that my partner was cheating on me. I had heard that story before and have to say that I don’t know which way to turn, what to believe, or how to trust what he says… I feel like I am starting from square one again and although our relationship works so well in so many ways I am not sure how to think about this act of infidelity...

By Tina Tessina

Women value intimacy, safety for themselves and their children, and emotional connection. Therefore, they long for the following qualities in a man:

1. Good Judgment

Good judgment is important because it means you can count on this man to help you make good decisions. He will be balanced and think clearly about whatever needs to be done. When you know your partner has good...

By Tammy Nelson, PhD Mirroring, validating, and empathizing are part of the imago dialogue developed by Harville Hendrix, the author of Getting the Love You Want, a book about couple's therapy. The imago technique is a structured method that you can use to talk to each other, enhancing communication. This imago therapy dialogue has worked for thousands of couples around the world. It is a way that may help you to talk about conflict and frustration in your relationship.

by Anastasia Strgar

My mother always told me that what people give to a relationship is never even. It is all in direct proportion to what each partner puts in their own box and that it never looks exactly as it should or comes exactly at the same time. Relationships are all about compromising and about breaking down expectations based on pre-conditioned responses.

Recently, my boyfriend and I...

The first time I learned of the idea of self soothing, I was reading a parenting book and trying to let my first child settle herself to sleep. I was more upset than she was that evening, gripping the door knob, willing myself to not open it and go in to soothe her. Awash in my own inability to self soothe, I cried as she whimpered herself to sleep. That night provided only a glimmer of the power...

“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.” – Dr Seuss

 

Sexual desire issues are an integral part of long-term relationships. In the twenty-six years of my own marriage I have visited all sides of the desire fence .Whether it was wanting intimacy more than my partner and not feeling wanted by my partner or not wanting my partner or intimacy at all, each machination was...

by Jennie Gill Rosier

Over the last few weeks, all but one of our four cars have stopped being able to get us from point A to point B for one reason or another. (Which, by the way, doesn’t include the Hus’ [aka- my husband’s] dream car that’s on jack stands in the garage. So technically, all but one of our five cars don’t work. Why do we have five cars? That’s another story for another time. I...